Is it normal to commit suicide due to sex or the lack there of?

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hi i have a friend who hasn't had sex in four years and he is very suicidle right now

not to long ago i caught him trying to hang himself but the sheet ripped

so my question is...is it normal to be suicidle over the lack of sex? and what advise can you give him?

(and don't say its not due to the lack of sex because i know for a fact it is)

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  • DiscoDuck
    14 years ago | pl

    If you are a female why dont you give him some sex and save his life!

    If you are a guy find some slut to give him some sex and save his life!

    But if he thinks its bad now he had better not get married. Not having sex is one thing when a female is not always in your presence, but not having sex when a female is always around is a killer...no pun intended. Its like having a refrigerator full of food that you can rarely eat if ever. If I have to starve then I'd rather it be with no food around.

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    • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
      12 years ago

      "If you are a female why dont you give him some sex and save his life!"
      Because women will not have sex with a beta/omega male no matter what. They are repulsed by men who are ugly and/or inferior.

      "If you are a guy find some slut to give him some sex and save his life!"
      This is good advice.

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      • rougeted
        3 years ago

        i'm an alpha i was fucked over on sex it cos a lot of lives. consequences and repercussions

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      • DiscoDuck
        12 years ago

        Yeah I guess you are fight about the beta male thing.

        Being an Alpha male I usually take what I want.

        Truth be told women prefer it that way....

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        • baroqueadagio
          12 years ago

          You are so right. I am married 20 years, no sex for the last 10 years except to make 2 babies who are now 4 & 6. I would love if my husband were an Alpha male. If I were to sign up on a dating site and put what I am looking for, it would read exactly that: "alpha male". I so totally miss being dominated by my husband or just a hot guy intimately. I have been thinking the same thoughts as the subject of this tread because I cannot bear the thought of never having that kind of intimacy for the resst of my life, having a much higher libido than my husband I just gave up, and it seriously hurts because there is no way I can get relief from this situation without significantly hurting everyone involved , like our beautiful 3 children. Everyone thinks we have a perfect marriage, otherwise. No one would understand until they are put in this position. Especially a woman who even though I could support myself financially, would be going from comfortable life in 40's to beginning all over again with a career seeking advancement to pay bills versus settling for less because he always took care of everything, including affording me the opporunity to live a life with very little worries. I am tired of crying myself to sleep and being so upset over it. Of course, he doesn't understand the urgency and performing oral sex disgusts him even though I am "voluptuous" "beautiful" and clean and shaven - not abnormal or fishy in the least.

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          • Ceska
            12 years ago

            i'm going through something similar and i'm 33...i have 3 kids also. I have cried myself to sleep many many times over his lack of sex interest. He says "i love you". That doesn't help anything and when i "so called" bug him for sex, he says stupid things like he's too tired (he isn't even working..). I get other excuses as-well, like "i don't feel like it right now, maybe later"...later comes and nothing happens and he gets pissed off when i bring it up again. We would never have sex if i never brought it up. He's never interested and i have wanted to commit suicide over it before..i know i have a higher sex drive, but this is ridiculous in the worst way..i love him but this "lack of sex" is making me so upset and depressed.

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          • DiscoDuck
            12 years ago

            What you need is a discrete, relationship with a married "Alpha-male" with whom you can indulge in once in awhile. Let out some frustrations and return home to an otherwise normal life. Keeping the family intact is important for the children and the extended family, but our natural urges and desires tend to make us live a tortured life. I know of such an alpha-male who is mature and would take-it just the way you need it to be taken, eat you up, and return you home a new woman.

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    • stillcurious
      14 years ago

      You are hilarious dude

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  • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
    12 years ago

    Absolutely normal.

    Sex is the biggest pleasure a person can have on earth short of cocaine induced pleasure.

    If you can't get it, it is natural not to see any point of living.

    My advise - earn money and use prostitutes. If he has lack of sex I presume he is ugly, so normal women won't have sex with him. Another option is to become very rich and get gold diggers, high class escorts. The third option is to invest in plastic surgery if that would make him better looking.

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  • lildog
    13 years ago

    well I can certainly identify with this individual. More often than not as a modern american man, I loathe my own existence. Sure I know it's wrong and it fells awful. I admit that I weep more than daily. I think it's not really lack of sex as much as it is wanting to feel cared about, to feel love from somewhere on the planet. it seems most men are in exile from this "world of love", that's allegedly out there somewhere. Men just simply don't have a role to play in this society anymore= listen to Paul Elam or angryharry on youtube for more on this.
    Anyway I think that feminism created a polarization of the sexes that is growing further everyday. The price of this is an endless wave of "men without a place in the world" which is I believe the true root of your friends problem and mine.
    At this point how am I logically supposed to expect or believe that any affection be granted me at all from anybody let alone the opposite sex. fear and loathing of the modern american male= it's a trivial lonely and quite useless life. Wish I had better news. Maybe all us men should kill ourselves, let the women have it their way.

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    • nealraj47
      11 years ago

      And forgot to mention that I am shocked that u are facing this situation in the US OF A !! I mean,I have always believed that American girlies are very open minded, caring and cute for their men !! Well, I have no words really to explain, how much I am shocked by ur confession !!

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    • nealraj47
      11 years ago

      Hi there bro, I completely identify with you, although I have been without sex for only past 3 months and before also, used to have occasional visits to a brothel, never any regular sex life. The one gf which I had, she used to be physical with me,u can say only dry humping and smooching but would not allow intercourse, which frustrated me and that was when I first thought of committing suicide. Just yesterday night I was wondering what u said that what if all the men commit suicide, maybe then women will feel our importance. Indian women used to be so understanding in the 16th century, the century of Kamasutra, but now they have changed a lot and u can see the rising rapes in our country !! Even I feel after a phase of sexual longing, a strange longing for the desire of being loved, I have constant visuals of some unknown girl hugging my head to her bosom and saying "I care for you and ur needs " !!

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  • killmesideways
    14 years ago

    I have had similar thoughts due to the lack of a love life. I'm sure many others have too.

    Men in general are more suicidal than women post puberty, because few things including sex work in our favour.

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  • THATSWHATHESAID
    14 years ago

    shit man get him help thats not right or get him laid do something dude

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  • evangel
    14 years ago

    well in all honesty if you was that bothered about your friend trying to commit suicide due to the lack of sex, you'd fuck him/her?

    it is rather sad though that somebody can be lead to sucj stupidity because of the lack of sex. sex is the ultimate act of love even though so many people have sex as recreation, it is still the ultimate act of love for another person

    your friend shouldnt be suicidal because of a lack of sex, mant people go for much longer periods without sex...

    might i ask who was the last person he/she had sex with?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      what the hell? my friend isn't gay

      I don't know anyone who has went for 4 years without sex (except my friend)

      and you wouldn't know her so why does it matter?

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  • berkano
    10 years ago

    Lack of sex really sucks, and not in a good way.
    Nothing to lose your head over though.
    Theres to much unfucked pussy in the world as it is. Go get some.

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  • nealraj47
    11 years ago

    I would advice that you take ur friend for a Counselling session, only they can help him . And Masturbating is one solution too, I am going through a similar situation myself,but masturbation does not drive me to the extreme stage of suicidal tendencies, where a person actually commits suicide !! I have till now only attempted two times,once by cutting my wrist and once by slashing my throat with a blade !!

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  • Ceska
    12 years ago

    when i my boyfriend doesn't give me sex after a long period of time i feel so depressed that i feel like shooting myself in the head. (i'm a female by the way). It's a misconception that women don't need sex. IDK how that bullshit thought got in to men's heads but it needs to get the heck out of there. If you ask me, men loose interest a lot faster in sex, by my experience anyway. I have had 2 guys in a row that have turned out the same after awhile ei.. excuses. I'm not some ugly woman either, just in case people are reading this and assume i must look bad or something. Have many women out there been dealing with the same BS as i am? you know..get a man and he's awesome at the beginning and then all of a sudden he doesn't wanna cuddle very much, won't let you touch his dick hardly ever and make excuses too not have sex as often or ever in some cases. This is kind on random to say all of this, but i had to get it off my chest.

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  • Fidgety
    12 years ago

    This post reminds me of erotic asphyxiation.

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  • elitist
    12 years ago

    I was actually looking for help on this topic (and signed up here) because I'm one step away from doing it myself.

    There is definitely a biological need for sex, and you can google scientific research that shows we release some kind of chemicals during sex that affect our mental and emotional well being.

    I'm not fat or ugly, just ended up in a bad place where a partner is unavailable. Now I'm just so depressed and miserable that there's no way any guy in his right mind would want to deal with me anymore. And I think I'd rather kill myself than do it with some drunk homeless guy because I'm .. stuck up? Yeah.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I have a friend in that sounds like you. And we're both teenagers and she admits to me that she's a lot to deal with but in all honesty she can be a fun person to be around. You probably can be to if you saw it in yourself. The dark place that you're in will eventually cast light. If it's a partner that you're after then ask something one out, it's the 21st century girls can ask guys out now. I do hope that you stay in this world. By the way you don't sound stuck up. Peace

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  • inzweeds
    13 years ago

    Looking at suicide statistics for men, I would bet good money there is a connection between lack of sex and suicide. It is less common with females. Terming this "normal" is a matter of semantics. Sex is biologically important and, yes, lack of sex, love,and affection for virtually any mammal will cause unbearable pain.
    I have gone years with having sex with only 1 gorgeous prostitute. I don't have a lot of money and am busting my rear being back in college in my mid 30s. Despite being athletic and good looking,I do not seem to stand a chance with any female to whom I am attracted. The emotional pain I feel now is worse than any physical pain I have ever known.
    Many of us have been seriously traumatized in the past, or do not get love often and women can see this. There is no love and no mercy for the lonely in America.
    I have resolved to give myself until the end of the summer. If I do not have at least some sex and something resembling love on some basic biological level if nothing else, I will take myself out. Love for friends and family are the only things keeping me alive, but this pain is more than I can take. I will make it look like an OD to save them from possible guilt.
    Unfortunately, this is more normal than what any of us want to admit. I've about lost my pride and, thus, have little else to lose, so I have no problem being the one to say it.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Inzweeds don't take your life. I don't know you as a person and practically everything you said is true but maybe you can change all that. I have no idea how to talk to someone out of suicide but at least try volunteering. I know it sounds dumb but if change someone's life then that'll give you a purpose. Plus you get to give love and mercy to those in your situation. I really hope you do find someone, however, seems like your better than most americans out there. Peace

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    prostitute

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    hooker?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    He was trying to commit suicide he was choking himself and jacking off to make it feel better. and if you think he is suicidal maybe it's because you can't spell suicidal.

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  • Fartyr
    13 years ago

    give him my number because i'm hard up right now.

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  • StuckInMyHead
    13 years ago

    I agree with those who've said to sleep with eachother.

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  • boitoy5
    13 years ago

    help your friend give it to him to save his life!1

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  • tommybowers
    14 years ago

    My guess is that no sex is only a mJor symptom of a deeper underlying issue. Don't have a clue what that would be, but one thing it isn't: normal

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  • HarshbutTrue
    14 years ago

    GET HIM A HOAR

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  • leahquestions
    14 years ago

    get her to a therapist there is always an underlying cause.. i know people who have been destroyed over past relationships

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  • stillcurious
    14 years ago

    I've never committed suicide for lack of sex. Not that I can remember. I went for almost two weeks without it. Oh wait.....I committed suicide that time.

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    • Legion
      12 years ago

      AAAAAAHHH! ZOMBIES!!!

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  • Noelus
    14 years ago

    maybe your friend should seek help. suicide is nothing to play with. i hope everything turns out okay

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  • maya617
    14 years ago

    tell him to try never having sex in his 31 year old life like me!!
    how am i supposed to feel?
    no, seriously, your friend must be depressed over life in general....whatever the case, your friend needs professional help.
    how long ago did he try to commit suicide?
    this might happen again.
    he must get help emmediately!!

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  • penelope13
    14 years ago

    Maybe the lack of sex is a symptom of something bigger. Whatever you do, tell his family about this. This is not something to take lightly. If he has attempted, he's not far from completing. Your friend needs help and I hope you at least tell his parents/family.

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  • nothing2
    14 years ago

    the answer lies in the question

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    This person is very depressed if attempting suicide & I think helping them get medical attention is critical rather than picking at the distorted reasoning of a person who is ill.

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    • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
      12 years ago

      Getting him laid is critical.

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  • Hippeh
    14 years ago

    As mentioned above a few times, Sex is a part of life, not life in general.

    If he's not had sex in 4 years and he's tried to commit suicide there's definately something else that's bringing him to the stage of wanting to end his own life.

    He needs some help a.s.a.p
    If you want to be a good friend, help him through this phase in his life and he'll come out of the other side stronger than ever.

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    • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
      12 years ago

      Sex is life. If there would be no sex, there would be no life. Sex is the basis for evolution.

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      • baroqueadagio
        12 years ago

        There is a saying that goes something like this..."sex isn't really all that important in a relationship, until you are not getting any."

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  • peepeye
    14 years ago

    I'm so confused is this friend a
    male or female? Regardless
    get them some help! any how you
    possible can, Voluntary or Involuntary
    Step up now! I know I lost my
    best friend over Thing's like
    this & Quit bickering on this!
    Your friend life Is at stake!
    Act now !

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago

    nvm about that last comment i figured out how to hide my revealing comment ^_^ this is it...as anonymous :D

    no HE doesn't have incredibly high standards but it seems as though other people do they would rather have sex with anyone but him and your right it could be due to the lack of relationship because he does feel very lonely but its hard for him to find women who wouldn't rather run off with the guy sitting across the room

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  • someonelikeme
    14 years ago

    Maybe it%%u2019s not the lack of sex but the lack of a relationship. Sex is a way to connect with someone and when you don%%u2019t have that life can become very lonely. You may have friends and family around but at the end of the day you%%u2019re still going to sleep alone.

    It might be a good idea to try and set them up with someone.

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    • baroqueadagio
      12 years ago

      What if you already have a relationship and it is good in every way except for no sex? You love them and want to be physically intimate with them but they have zero libido and you have a high libido. I always thought my spouse would be there for me in that capacity, and his desire for sex being due to low T and doesn't seem to get the urgency of it. Although he is quick to acknowledge his nonexistent sex drive he is not willing to have an open relationship after 20 years of marriage and 10 of no xex and then 5 before that. I have put it out of my mind as much as I can but it returned and I can't bear the thought of living out the rest of my life like this. It's like I am stuck. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. I just cannot continue to go on like this and the alternatives SUCK

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      fuck well it doesn't look like i can remain anonymous anymore considering i just posted with my real name so that sucks but oh well

      and i think you could be right "someonelikeme"
      but i cant exactly hook him up with anyone if i could i would have already its not that he doesn't want to hook up with anyone i just don't know anyone who would hook up with him...TRUST ME when i say i would have hooked him up a LONG time ago but yeah...

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  • dadodido
    14 years ago

    Sex is an activity, but it is not life. If your friend is trying to commit suicide because he has not had sex in four years, then obviously there is something deeper. I will say that the suicidal attempts are not due to the lack of sex, because it really just does not make sense. I have never had sex and I would never want to kill myself.

    So to answer your question: No, it is not normal to be suicidal over lack of sex, and advice that I can give him would be to go see a psychiatrist a.s.a.p.

    Advice that I can give you would be to use a dictionary or spell check, for the reason that when people spell things wrong, they look like idiots....

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      yeah i told you it wasn't anything deeper but you didn't listen so your comment unfortunately helps very little,and i use Firefox with a build in spell checker so if you don't like the way i spell things blame Firefox

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    • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
      12 years ago

      There is nothing deeper. I haven't had sex ever and I'm 24. I think about suicide every single day. And yes, because I can't get a girlfriend or get laid.

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  • johnedwards
    14 years ago

    You guys should fuck each other. Another problem solved

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  • peepantz
    14 years ago

    since im a guy and shes a girl i mite not be to acurate but i would say just keep living life and the rite person will stumble into u!

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    • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
      12 years ago

      The biggest lie since religion.

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  • rationalist
    14 years ago

    You DO NOT know for a fact that sexual deprivation is the cause of your friend's suicidal tendencies. If you want to be a REAL friend, transcend your immature ignorance, and get in touch with a professional who can help your friend. You can get started by calling a suicide hot line and telling them the story - it's free. Professional help might keep your friend alive long enough to get his head together to the point where he can start getting the sex he wants.

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    • FUCKTHISGAYEARTH
      12 years ago

      The only professional who can help him is an escort.

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  • silver76
    14 years ago

    I havent had sex for 12 years,doesnt bother me at all.

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