Is it normal to choose work over companionship?

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I realized today that I have been subconscious distancing myself from my girlfriend.

I work allot and I love what I work with. Lately, more or less all of my energy has been going into that and this is probably whats causing all the problems these days. But honestly, these days, I prefer work over companionship 10 times over.

She is down right sick of me and lets me know it. She gets angry for basically everything I do or don't do no matter how many things I do "correctly" in the course of the day and even gets violent when I tell her im not interested. She is a happy person normally though, caring and compassionate individual who will lend a helping hand to anybody. Its just me shes like this with. Everything about me she would rather I did differently, from the way I talk to her parents to the way I take out the trash and I have had it up to here with it. Things are good for a week or two, we start fighting for about a week, we make up and then it starts all over again.

The only solid reason we are still together is probably our son. I hate the idea of not getting to see him every day. It really tears me apart but perhaps that would be best for him if we were separated?

I asked her if she loved me yesterday (valentines day) and she said she didn't know anymore.

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  • Gena45
    12 years ago

    This is definitely not normal, and it sounds like a toxic relationship to me. You should seriously consider taking a break from her.

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  • johnboy007
    12 years ago

    You need to balance your career and your personal life. By the way it sounds like she needs to get a life outside you and your son. Have her go back to school online classes or get a P/T job. She needs to be busy doing something. And get some couseling. She needs help.

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  • equestrian
    12 years ago

    I do not blame you one bit for choosing work. I would do the same. It sounds like your relationship is at a stand still. I think you should seriously talk to her about your feelings.

    The thing is, you guys aren't married. If you were married to her or had a family of some kind and you were choosing work over her, there might be an issue. But where it stands right now she sounds like a greedy girlfriend whose not making life easier for you. So while girlfriends can come and go, a career that makes you money and helps you feel confident will stay and make life even easier for the woman you eventually want to be with forever. Its all a matter of priorities, and if I were you I wouldn't make this bitch a top priority.

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  • Geneva5
    12 years ago

    She sounds like a complete bitch - fuck her off right now !

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