Is it normal to cheat on my boyfriend with my ex/bestfriend?

You're all probably thinking just from reading the titled that I'm a hoe for what I did but please, just listen.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. And my ex/bestfriend has a girlfriend. They have been together for a while as well. A little plot twist is that my ex is my boyfriends bestfriend like his bro basically. You are probably thinking why am I dating my exes bestfriend and honestly I wasn't gonna be with my current boyfriend Despite the deep feeling I had for him because of this. But when they both came to talk to me about this matter I gave it a shot and honestly I think it was the best decision I made. I really do love my boyfriend. Over time, being around my ex because of my boyfriend wasn't even bad. He became my bestfriend and I tell him everything and he has help me with my problems when my boyfriend was busy. But what was good eventually turned bad when I started to day dream a little about my ex.
I thought it was a phase and I told my current boyfriend about it and he said it was understandable and didn't get mad at me. And after I told him they stopped which was great cause it felt weird. Then a couple months after that, my boyfriend was out of town, work related and I was talking to my ex/bestfriend and we decided to hang out for a little at his house. His girlfriend at the time wasn't living with him and she doesn't like me for being his ex so he didn't tell her about hanging out with me. So I drove over and I had a bottle of henny on me cause I thought it would be fun to take some shots. And it was, I remember a lot that happened but not how I got home. I was told he took me home and he picked me up the next day so I could get my car back since I was under the influence. It was a crazy night but what happened was that we both were a bit tipsy and I couldn't stay standing so I layed down on him cause my head was hurting. But then I remember just looking in his eyes. I felt something, That I shouldn't be feeling. I think he felt it too because, he was staring back. But the henny got to me and I said let's dance and so we did as we took another shot but I couldn't stand during it so he asked me if I wanted to lay down and I did and I grabbed him and told him to lay down with me and I layed down on top of him. Which was nice I remember and I kissed him on his cheek I guess as a goodnight kiss cause I was tired. And he gave me one back. He held me pretty tight during this and he basically leaned in and we made out. It was shockingly Really good, But we stopped and realized We just cheated on our significant other. We asked eachother how we felt about one another and we both said we have somewhat feeling for eachother. But we decided to leave it at staying friends and to not tell our significant other cause we still loved them a lot. After that when we were sober I asked him again if he was serious about still liking me and he said yea. We both agreed in the end that it was old feeling being brought back by the henny and to keep it between eachother. Which we did, and still remained good friends to eachother and we managed to still hang out with eachother without anything happening. So what I'm asking is, Is it normal to cheat on my boyfriend with my ex whom I still have a little feelings for?

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Comments ( 9 )
  • ScooterNyne

    I actually read the whole thing... youre a hoe.

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  • Syturio

    i only read the title. whore

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  • davesumba

    tl;dr. You seem to have put a lot of thought into trying to rationalize this for yourself.
    #DelusionalBitches

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  • Pastafarian

    So you not only fuck up your own relationship by being a selfish whore, but you fuck up your ex's girlfriends relationship with her boyfriend just because you felt like cheating with your ex? No, its not normal.

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  • dasugaknows

    Let this be a lesson to anybody reading to not date your best friend's ex or you will end up like this girl's boyfriend. I guarantee there will be more episodes of this little rendezvous. First of all, out of respect for your best friend, it is not polite to date their ex. This OP's ex's gf has every right to not like the OP because even she knows that her bf's best friend dating his ex is a bad thing. I'm pretty sure the reason that OP even dated her current bf was so that she could be closer to her ex anyway.

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  • Rillman

    Bitch of bitches you are

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  • yououghtakno84

    I don't want to be a negative nancy, but the fact that you began a relationship with your ex's best friend was the first mistake... I wouldn't have even done that. Because even though the ex is an Ex, feelings always find their way back no matter what. You shouldn't have been there when the gf wasn't present, second mistake. Third mistake was adding alcohol into the equation. And the alcohol doesn't make for an excuse because it was a Choice to consume it and a Choice to consume the amount you two did. This is just selfish, and I think you should just leave the ex and his best friend alone. Because not you've created a situation where they're possibly being pitted against each other, you've created future trust issues. Let them go.

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  • DubstepismyMJ

    really?! you went over to your exes place to get drunk thinking it was just for "fun".

    don't even fucking kidd yourself. you wanted something to happen, so you deliberately put yourself in a situation where cheating was imminent, and easy without your conscious around. you just needed an excuse if he ever found out.

    you are a fucking whore. Both guys are unlucky to even have the pleasure of being with you.

    karma will be a bitch. I assure you.

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  • SometimesNaive

    It's normal to have those feelings since you did date before, but you shouldn't have brought henny. Even if he's your bf's bestfriend you should try to keep a little distance. No, you're not a hoe or a slut the bestfriend is just as at fault as you are.

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