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Caught my 9yo son performing oral sex on a friend his age at a sleep over. They did not see me but I made a noise so they stopped and pretended nothing happen. Not sure if they had done anything else. What should I do? Is this normal behavior for boys this age? I'm his dad but never did anything like this
kids do that im a girl and i experemented with my neighbor also girl at that age doesnt make him gay ask him what he knows and where he learnd it u dont want him having the wrong info
Its so normal that I would consider it unusual if he *didn't* Experiment with a friend.
yeah not only is it totally normal, but as humans evolve in this day and age it's very common in preteen and middle school aged boys to find attraction in each other/form relationships. I'm an old soul and came into this world years ahead of my time. I was highly sexual from 5 on and nobody had to teach me anything. Just as many kids come into this world more evolved then others. We are spiritual beings and some kids naturally seek affection and intimacy so their electrical energies can evolve and frequency can connect. And regardless of age or gender the outer body is just a shell/barrier between 2 souls which match. It was my childhood dream to be able to have these types of experiences/relationships, but all I could do was observe them happening and felt so alone and left out. Because high functioning autism prevented me from being able to be sociable and know how to make friends. Now that I'm grown up and have never so much as been kissed I am emotionally devastated and crushed. As an indigo spirit I have always been extremely sensitive to the flow or persons, objects and energies around me. My sense of touch, sight, and hearing are amplified 10 folds, and I have a 6th sense. But being the quiet shy observer I have/can see things in this world that the rest of society cannot. My social impairment has slowly improved when I grew up but will never be normal. As such I'm naturally able to connect better with younger people then adults my own age, and also due to the fact that there is an evil run by our elite world leaders turning all of society into programmed zombies/stoners slaves, robots, unable to think freely using logic and reason. The spirit and creativity slowly stripped away from people by the time they are in high school. It's disturbing how parents are ok about their kids watching movies about killing, bloody, groomsome violence yet hide something natural and beautiful as 2 people making love in movies or of any kind of sex making you feel terrible shame and guilt. Or how parents react are outraged and surprised when they discover kids naturally exploring their own bodies or with a friend, an older younger sibling or other. Instead of educating them with the proper morals, values about love, safety, and sex. Is it no wonder the USA has 1 of the highest pregnancy and disease rates in comparison to other Countries??
Id be concerned about where he learned that, from media maybe but also he might be learning stuff like that from a pedophile.
It's normal for kids to experiment. They are bombarded with sexual images and advertising and they are curious to try things out for themselves. Have a talk with your son about sex but don't get mad at him or make him feel ashamed.
Homosexuality is completely normal.
Yeah dude, your kid's normal. Might be gay, but that's normal too!
It's normal for kids to experiment and it probably perfectly harmless but 9 seems kind of young. You have to wonder where they got the idea from? If they came up with it themselves or heard about it at school or something then OK. But there's always the possibility they heard about it from an adult or teen. And that would certainly be an inappropriate thing for any non-parental adult or teen to discuss with 9-year-olds. Which leads one to wonder what the older person's motivation is, and if something really bad might be going on. So, I don't want to make you paranoid or anything. But if you can find out where the idea originated, without making a huge traumatic scene with the kids, you probably should.
As far as your son being gay goes, I personally think that's just absurd. It's a little early to make that judgement call. Ask him in 10 or 15 years if you are interested.
That made me remember the time my brother called me to watch my little cousin of five years old and her friend (another girl) kissing with their tongue and caressing. Another time I heard that she was "having sex" with our little neighbour and telling him that it was not in!
Once I've heard someone talking about infantile sexuality. I'm pretty sure though that they did not mean that children could go this far in experimenting. At that age I was unaware that the penis could get into the vagina and that people put penises in their mouth. The media is responsible for that. Their is so much tallk about sex that our children now know everything too early and whatever we do we cannot fully protect them from all these.
It's sad but the world is evoluating. What you can do is talk about sex with your child and make him understand that sex is not just about the body but also about feeling and that it is for adults in love. I know that this is not entirely true but it is what a child should hear.