Is it normal to care so much?

Is it normal that I care so much what people I shouldn't even give a damn about think about me?
Today the office gossip told some of the other ladies in the office that the boss will be recruiting a new team member.
Just last week, one of the ladies complained to me that she can't handle the work-load at present, but it's temporary due to various issues with our suppliers. I told her that she should voice her concerns to management, as it's not my place to get involved.
When they heard the news about the new employee today, they got upset because they believe that they will now not get a salary increase at year end ( I do believe they will still get the increase as per standard yearly) and they are angry at ME for running to the boss. But the fact is he decided this almost a week before my colleague voiced her concerns to me. I knew about it, but I also felt that it wasn't my place to inform any employees about a decision the boss wants to make - I'm the bookkeeper, not HR - and that he will tell them when ready. He obviously made a mistake telling the office gossip something like that, but I don't think he is aware of how much sensitive details she likes to discuss with everyone. Or, perhaps he IS aware and it was a tactical move from his side in order to prepare them. Obviously he isn't aware of the implications it could have on me, because he isn't aware of what my colleague told me.
Gosh, I'm sorry this post might be a bit confusing, but I am really upset right now, and need to get everything out.
I just HATE being blamed for something I didn't do. I understand that it's easy to jump to conclusions, but I feel that one must try to get ALL the facts before passing a judgement on someone and discussing it behind their back.
OR maybe I'm just being paranoid, and they don't think so at all, but it certainly looks like that - whispers, the room goes quiet when I walk in etc...

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Comments ( 8 )
  • candybee

    I hate this type of stuff, and am so happy I don't have to deal with this crap at my current job. I'd confront the woman if I were you.

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  • Feh

    It's normal to care what people think, but I don't think it's healthy to care too much about what others may think of you. If you are a decent person, doing a good job, and being respectful, what others think of you isn't your problem. You can't control them, the only thing you can control is yourself.

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  • peterr

    You should always care but as empathy not introspection so much. You are a nice person and will do alright.

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    • peterr

      Shheeeesh, did I say this?

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  • ifonlyuknew247

    I hate gossips and people who believe them. They did research and found people are 3 times more likely to believe negative or derogatory information about others than not. There's a "popular" (read: loud, brash, and frightens anyone who doesn't go along with what she decided is cool at the moment) girl who goes to my school. She's narcissistic, immature and shallow, and extremely insecure, and she tries to cover it by being a bully and talking sh*t about other people behind their backs. I used to be friends with her because I found her drama amusing, but eventually she turned on me as well, and guess what? I never forgave her, even though that's her drama game. She keeps trying to get me to talk to her again, whilst simultaneously continuing to talk sh*t about me. I don't let it get to me, I just completely ignore her and alienate those who say they're "on my side", but then go along with her stuff when I'm not around, running or getting silent when I walk into the area. They're a bunch of sad children, and my best friend says they are inconsequential. Ykw? My best friend is right. Every time any bully/ies have tried doing that to me, I just ignore them and eventually the truth comes out with how you act and how they act. Don't let them get to you. Keep your head up and remember you have way more integrity than they could ever hope to have.

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  • What a big bunch of words.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Just don't let it consume you.

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  • Short4Words

    Whatever it is, just be yourself and try to brush it off and go as you do normally. If someone asks you, feel free to make yourself clear.

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