Is it normal to buy this much gifts for a girl's birhday?

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So I told this girl I have feelings for her a couple days back. She said she doesn't really know what to say but I told her she doesn't have to say anything yet. Of course we hung out a few times after I told her my feelings. So her birthday is in 3 weeks. I was thinking hard what I should get her. And one day I notice she always goes to the mall sometimes and try on all these clothes and post them to her instagram account. Being a typical poor college student, she never buys them but she likes all the clothes she tried on. So without her knowledge, I went out and look and bought the 2 dresses and 1 top she wanted really bad. The total for all three came out be almost 65 dollars. Next, Ima buy her favorite flower to go along with it. I'm thinking the normal amount is good enough. I am actually gonna give everything to her sister to give it to her for me because I will be working over night when her birthday party is going on. So yeah I won't be going. I told my best friend about all the birthday presents I'm giving her and he said it makes me look desperate. At first I disagree but now I'm not sure anymore. So is this normal?

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    I don't really think that there is a normal setting for how much you spend on a person simply because of peoples perception on money. However, I will admit that you spent a superfluous amount of money on this girl's gift. I think that she'll appreciate the gift but don't expect her to love you for it.

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    • davidnodavid
      12 years ago

      Of course I don't expect her to love me back. I always spend at least 50 bucks on all my really good friends gifts. It's mostly 50 bucks gift cards from their favorite store. But for her, I'm putting a lot more thoughts into it.

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      • Anime7
        12 years ago

        Well then it seems that for you it's normal. I hope though that you and this girl can move past friendship and evolve into a more intimate relationship.

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        • davidnodavid
          12 years ago

          Thanks bro. I'm thinking of just giving her the one dress and flowers only. The other gifts I can save for another time.

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          • Anime7
            12 years ago

            Awesome, and by the way, I think you're profile pic is so otaku, which is awesome.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    do expect her to except gifts from you regularly, if you hand her these things.

    return everything but one dress, give her exactly one flower. tell her shes pretty battaboom battabang

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    • davidnodavid
      12 years ago

      I do like your idea. I'll definitely think about it.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      well said!

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  • ihatenigga's
    11 years ago

    I'm a girl and I think that's super sweet just give her the 1 dress and a bunch of flowers and then if you start getting aa little more closer give her the rest me and my partner knew each other 2 years before I decided to go for it I knew his sister for 5 years before he started asking me out but his sister wanted me to meet I wasn't sure till 1 day he popped up and we had a really long chat then 2 years later we got together uve got to be willing to change for the girl me and my partner have been together 3 years now we have a beautiful little boy and it was the best choice of my life my last years birthday pressent he went out and bought me a ring and proposed then 3 months later I shocked him with I'm pregnant I've known all this time and didn't wanna hurt u I hope ur relationship with this girl turns out as good as mine with my man

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  • Pandabear16
    12 years ago

    Wow :) that is incredibly sweet to me. I say that's normal :) and Good luck!

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    No way! I wouldn't say desperate at all! It just shows that you put alot of thought and effort into her gift. My favourite part was the favourite flower! It sound so cute and romantic! Men do crazy things to court a woman, I say theres no shame in giving it your all <3 What woman doesn't dream of having a guy do wonderful things for her just to win her over. :) Some people don't try hard enough, and she gets away. So power to yah!

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    Honestly, as a girl who's been on the receiving end of something like this, it can scare a person off getting a bunch of gifts from someone they aren't with. I don't know, since you guys are friends it might not be so bad.

    When it happened to me, first there was a kid who was friends with my friends, and he started leaving carnival prizes in my locker every day for like a week. I got a little freaked. Then a kid I talked to twice on the bus got me a glass rose, and that was just downright "wut?"

    I guess what Im saying is be careful with your presentation. ;P Definitely don't wanna scare her off, that's a really nice thing to do for someone though

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    • davidnodavid
      12 years ago

      Me and her are really good friends. We have our little friend dates now and then. She was my date for my friend's wedding. She usually opens up to me about a lot of things. I don't really open up myself to her though. I have the best intention when I bought those gifts for her. I'm not trying to win her heart the cheap and quick way. I usually just buy gift cards for my other friends but for her, I wanted something more thoughtful, and surprising.

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  • floodimoo123
    12 years ago

    It's normal for a guy to want to buy some girl he loves a lot of gifts, but don't make it seem like you're buying her love. That'll push her away. But, as a girl, I think it's sweet that you bought flowers, but the dresses and dhirt kinda seems stalker-ish. Don't be overbearing with it.

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    • davidnodavid
      12 years ago

      Just wondering, how is buying her the dresses and shirt seems stalker-ish?

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      • floodimoo123
        12 years ago

        Because he saw her trying them on and wanting them, and if someone I didn't hang out with very much got me something I wanted exactly, I would be suspicious. But, that's my opinion.

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    That's it?

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    • davidnodavid
      12 years ago

      yeah that's it.

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  • chicken471bologna
    12 years ago

    You sound totally desperate and clingy dude. It won't make her like you. She will appreciate the gift but won't get her to be your girlfriend. You will think of you as just some little mangina that does everything she says which is a turn off. Girls like guys who take control.

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    • davidnodavid
      12 years ago

      I don't think I'm desperate and clingy. I just have a hard time thinking of a good gifts for people. I usually just buy them gift cards or give them cash.

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