Is it normal to break up with someone you love and they love you back?

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I recently broke up with my partner after 13 years, and being engaged for 7.

My reasons were:
His constant lies/doing things behind my back "in order to avoid conflict"
His lack of interest in me
His lack if interest in our future/ planning for the future
His obsession with cars, and spending way more time with cars than with me
His financial irresponsibility and spending too much money on cars

I am confident that there isn't anyone else in his life, but I felt as if he was cheating on me with his cars, if that makes sense.

We both still love each other.

Is it normal that I saw the reasons above as significant to end a 13year relationship?

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Based on 71 votes (53 yes)
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  • dom180
    10 years ago | pl

    There are sometimes irreconcilable differences that make a relationship impossible even if you still love the other person. It is normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It doesn't matter what the reasons were ...if they bothered you enough, then you were right to end it.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    That's really sad. I'm sorry it didn't work.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I'm surprise you wasted 13 years of your life with this person. Technically an engagement should not last longer than a year. I'm glad however, that you're getting on with your life and I wish you all the best!

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  • Qwertyzxc
    10 years ago

    Thank you!,,,

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  • kit-kat-bar
    10 years ago

    A long lasting relationship needs more than love, think about it
    1. Love, check
    2. Stability, Not Check
    3. Hard working, Not Check, so on so forth,
    get the picture?
    Maybe you won't ever find someone that you love as much as this person, but you'll feel a whole lot more fulfilled about stuff that really matters.

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  • SvenTheBold
    10 years ago

    How do you even know he loves you if he isn't interested in you? If he says he loves you but doesn't act interested in you, he might not even really know what love means.

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    • Qwertyzxc
      10 years ago

      He loves me, but loves his cars and spending money more :(
      He took me for granted and thought I would wait and be by his side no matter what :(

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        10 years ago

        Sounds like a good enough reason not to be with someone.

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  • Qwertyzxc
    10 years ago

    Thank you all

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.
    10 years ago

    He cant have sex with his cars... maybe the exhaust pipe but thats stupid. what a loser.

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