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Okay so we had a relationship for 2 years and she's gotten fat over time and I don't like her I want to break up with her!! How do I do this we live in the same apartment and I'm thinking of moving out
Dump her, that way she can lose 150 pounds of useless fat right away...you.
I agree with randomjelly you need to dump her so she can move on and find someone who loves her for her beauty I'm a bit big myself and I've been with my boyfriend for three years and everyday he still tells me I'm beautiful she deserves way better then you so yea please leave her and let her move on
If you aren't sexually attracted to her...then that's your problem. You should never feel obligated to be with somebody you don't want to be with.
Besides, if you make it a priority to be in good shape, then it makes sense that you should date other people who also like to be in good shape.
Unlike what others on here think, you aren't an asshole. It's her life choice to be fat and you shouldn't put her down for it, but at the end of the day, she's either worth it or not. Do YOU want to put forth the physical and mental effort to convince her to lose weight and help her deal with it?
I don't think looks are necessarily the only reason why someone would break up with someone. I think if it was meant to be and she was the perfect girl for you, you wouldn't care about her looks. I think you may be using her looks as an excuse instead of just facing the fact you don't really care much for her. Just a theory. Lol. My vote--Normal. Well..somewhat.. ;)
If you have an issue, you talk to her about it. You don't just give up. If you can't resolve the issue between you, then you discuss what to do next (which may involve splitting up). But at least you're both being mature about it.
You need to grow up. You act like you're still in high school where dating someone is a popularity contest. You deserve someone to give you a nice slap into reality. You're the kind of guy all women hate. Good luck finding someone who doesn't like you for just your body.
He's not attracted to her anymore because of her weight gain. What the hell does that have to do with a "popularity contest"? Looks are important to some people, accept it.
People who are shallow enough to break up with someone after gaining a few pounds are just pathetic. Instead of being concerned that there's something wrong and trying to help them lose weight, they just break up with them? Obviously someone doesn't care about their relationship.
if that's the guy all women hate, then the human race is in serious trouble. That's 99% of all men, honey. Oh, I call you honey cuz I can tell by your comment that you're a girl
I was trying to not be biased with that comment but I guess my woman opinion broke through. I've been cheated on, used, and called names by all kinds of men but still found someone who appreciates me for me more than mu looks. It's terrible dating men who have no respect for someones true personality. I think men just need to realize they have the ability to love someone for who they are. Dating someone is not a popularity contest.
Funny thing how ur acting really emotianol about it but u tell me this if u were dating a man who looked like chewbaka shaved of his hair with spocks ears and wooldoors nose would u still date him......didnt think so
I've dated many people who weren't "socially acceptable" with their looks. One of my bfs in school actually looked like Scratch from Ice Age to most yet I found him to be attractive. Big, small, athletic, ugly, cute, sexy, I've dated them all no matter what they looked like. It's the personality that matters to me.
You don't like her because she gained weight. I just have nothing to say. Well I do but I don't want to make you cry.
If you can't deal with her weight gain it doesn't mean you're shallow. It just means that you don't have very strong feelings for her. If you did have strong feelings this story would be more like "My girlfriend gained a lot of weight I'm so concerned for her health"
My friend would always say true love is if you love them even when they get fat or bald in 10 years.
Not having strong feelings for someone isn't a crime. No one can expect you to love anyone. If you're with a girl for 2 years and you don't have strong feelings for her go ahead and leave her. It isn't going anywhere.
Beauty isn't the case in love...if u loved her you would of help her out (maybe find something that can make her weight go down)...and I think that any girl can be pretty if she takes care of herself.Maybe u shouldn't just dump her...give her a chance and maybe she gonna change for you...(just tell her the truth and give her a chance)....good luck
I'm glad you left her, she deserves someone better who will love her despite her imperfections!
That is just pathetic, you can't just dump someone because you think they are ugly.
Alright thanks guy Ive broke up with her I told her at home that I'm moving out because I don't feel the connection anymore
Dude dump her and fast!!! I made the mistake of going out with a chick I didnt love and I regreted it. She was hot but I had other reasons. Point is attractiveness is a big deal and you wont be happy with a fugly chick. I know I wouldn't! Don't sacrifice your booty getting years on the chunky stuff
I think you should love someone for who they are inside not how they look on the outside
OR... get her to a gym?
besides, beauty is the inner monster, not the outer one.
Did it ever occir to you that she's gained weigt because she is unhappy in the relationship? No wonder, you seem like an absolute cunt. Do her a favour and dump her - fuckhead.
Well you should definetly break up then. you can't possibly be with someone who you are not attrackted to. this way you can move on with your life and she has the chance to find someone who will love her for all that she is.
think you'll both b happier in the end.. DON'T TELL HER IT'S CAUSE SHE'S FAT THO
Well since youre now unattracted to her, you have no reason to be with her. leave!
If she never used to be this big it's because she has become comfortable with you and feels she doesn't need to impress anybody else because she has you. You need to talk to her, explain that you are no longer attracted to her (in a nice way) and see if there is anything she is willing to do about it.
Its not about looks anymore...if she ben that down ass chick for u u should work it out or work out togetha just bkuz she gain some weight just tell her or ask her if y'all can sign up for a gym member ship and work it out....real shit!!!!
Seriously?
What if you ended up marrying her, and she was pregnant with your child? You would hate her just because of a few pounds she might've gained?
I think you need to leave and get it over with. And as for her, she can do so much better!
It doesn't make you abnormal, but it does make you sound like a jerk if the only reason you want out is because she doesn't look good enough for you anymore. If you still care about her, try subtly suggesting you guys work out together or something.
If you don't want to be with her then you should leave, because there's no point stringing her along if you know it'll never work. But if you value your relationship, you should talk about it with her first. That way, you'll not regret leaving her later, or not as much at least, because you know that you tried your best to make it work.
Just tell her that you aren't as attracted to her as you used to be and that you think that she should lose weight. Offer to buy her a gym membership. BUT you said baby... That would be horrible if you had a problem with her baby weight! Any woman is going to go through that not just her. Remember that.
why don't you tell her to lose weight? Are you sure you want to actually break up with her?
Leave her but remember one day your body will change too and someone else will leave u.You dont love her.
all the people here that are saying you're a horrible person are clearly fat women themselves, so they cant be objective about things and dont know how repulsive they are, which is a lot. they are a lot repulsive. why should you have to care for someone who cares so little about themself they let themself get fat
One day in the future you're gonna realise that you were a horrible person to break up with someone just because of their looks. Maybe she was going through a rough patch and turned to comfort eating....weight is a big issue for us girls and to break up with her because of that is just sheer stupidity