Is it normal to break up over the phone?

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Is it normal if i break up over the phone due to it being way too hard face to face? I can almost never find the time to see her face to face but we text all the time. I feel this relationship is not working out. I know ill be a huge tool by breaking up over the phone but if i break up face to face it would be on a bus ride to school and i wouldnt be able to tell her i want to break up in ten minutes! But then at the same time id come off as a coward and a jerk if i do it over the phone! Is it normal to break up over the phone due to these reasons? Or should i wait for a time irl where i can break up with her? Im just worried because irl you cant think about what you say and you cant erase what you just said to say something better while talking if you mess up. If i did it over the phone i could tell her how i feel in the best way without all the stuttering and worrying about what i say and how i should say it.
If i cant break up with her over the phone then how should i break up? I agreed to be with her at first because i was desperate and really felt she understood me and cared how i felt. But we also confessed how we felt over the phone too. So... I just dont know. I really need help with this and im very worried about how shell react and how my friends and family will react if i breakup over the phone. What should i do?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    If you care for her at all, don't break up over the phone. She deserves better than that. Make the time to see her outside of school then try to say what's on your mind without doubt or guilt.

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    just do it in person. ... Since u said is hard for u to do it in person. Dont look her in the eyes wen ur doing it. Breaking up on the phone is pretty pathetic

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  • Anarchy
    12 years ago

    That's called: The art of not having balls.

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  • legendary27
    12 years ago

    It's normal.

    ...but it's shitty.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    a singing telegram would be cute. or I'm sure Hallmark makes cards for such occasions.

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  • Sove
    11 years ago

    I had to do it with a text at high school when I was 18 . If I told the crazy bitch face to face she would grab on to me . Sometimes it's necessary man

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  • ANDYTREK247
    11 years ago

    Yes its normal for males and females to do this via mobile phone its fast but never painless.

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    u could drop hints over a couple days so when it comes it wont be such a surprise.

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    justdo it quickly over the phone

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I don't see whats the issue about it :/

    Phone call. Text. Whatever..
    It just keeps things simpler.

    My favourite move is when I just ignore them completely. Try it.
    I think it works the best.
    Don't reply to anything. And constantly make up excuses (lies). They'll get the message soon enough.

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    • Hannah2137
      10 years ago

      That might work, however that would also make you a complete asshole. No offense.

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  • metallover1991
    12 years ago

    Don't be a fucking coward.

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  • chasbrielle
    12 years ago

    I agree with some people on here that she does deserve to know in person. That being said it's hard to put in words face to face that you can say when she's not in front of you. I would go old school and go both ways. Write your feelings out in a letter and then give it to her face to face and let her read it in front if you. I think it's at least mire respectful if she does want to talk about it. Good luck

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  • kittenlittle
    12 years ago

    break up with her after school, so shes not crying during classes

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    If you got social anxiety or whatever reaction the chick or guy might have if you did it face to face would just make you break down and cry like a baby,then yes,it is right.
    There are many reasons for doing something like that,all of them based on inadequacy in these types of awkward social situations.
    I did it once or twice,I just was not able to bare the look on the other person face,whatever look it was gonna be.Probably,incredulity,disbelief,shock,disappointment and all that or she would just get mean and like disrespectful or whatever,it has been better that way.Anyway, I just could not utter the words so I just did through a text message.I did not dump her because of some particular defect or anything,I was just going through a ruff patch and did not want to be a burden to her.
    What is "be brave" supposed to mean anyway?feelings on both sides are at stake,if you are too bald and direct with it and she is sort of a very fragile girl you might actually do more damage by doing it in person than through the phone.Some people are just not made to go through the dating game and come out of it psychologically unharmed.You just need the wisdom to make the difference between those who tend to develop a very strong bond real fast and those who do not.
    Anyway dumping somebody through the phone can be better or worse according to the particular situation you do it.It is up to you to decide.Of course if you just date one chick after the other and dump em all through the phone right after having sex with them you might be michael douglas or a sex addict who would stick it in everything with a pulse.

    Like:we are not boyfriend and girlfriend! YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A PSYCHO BITCH!
    That was a funny one.

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