Is it normal to boink your ex?

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I know people that get that last "good-bye sex"/break-up sex, it's nice yadda yadda..but um..

I have been broken up with my ex since late November, it's now early January, we 'bone' about once a week, it's nice.

LoL.

I've never had an arreangement like this, yet the way he speaks of it, makes it very similar to how we were before.
He is being monogomous, not interested in anyone else, not currently looking for anyone else, likes to cuddle, we do date-type stuff, wants me to even spend the night, ect ect.

I don't want to open myself up to feelings again, because not sure what's going on, last evening he told me when I mentioned the fact that we act as though we're together but without the title and he said "although I have no interest in anyone else and stll dig you, the title itself made me feel restrained"...yet now that he's got the slack, he stays in the peremiter so to say, I'm wondering if just doesn't like titles, and needs the freedom or what...I admit I felt restrained a bit too, but we also kinda jumped into it, now we're both free to do what we want, but all we seem to do is, well, each other LoL.

I guess this arreangement is ok, I only have sex with one person at a time *shhh with your threesome comments* and I know he's safe so it's cool plus I get to get pounded like a mallard duck weekly *sighs* which isn't the 3-5 times a day I'm accustomed to, but then again he lives 60 miles away and both of us are having money issues.

SO, main question now that ya know all the juicy details..
Is It Normal To Fuck Your Ex?

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Based on 84 votes (49 yes)
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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Normal....apart from the use of the term "boink".

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  • mixwell
    11 years ago

    yah its normal since neither of you are dating anyone else for the time, its more for the convenience until one of you starts dating someone else

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    @ the begining of nov. i found out my husband whom I've been w/ for 22 yrs. & married to for the last 17 yrs. had sex w/ his ex he dated 25 yrs. ago. an ex is an ex for a reason if you were meant to betogether you wouldn't of ever split up. now my husband is having an affair w/ her.

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    • sheilarae1987
      11 years ago

      which oddly enough, not in your favor, just kind of disproves ex's don't get back together.

      Not to sound heartless, but that's exactly what you're (hopefully soon-to-be-ex husband is having an affair with his ex.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    Sex with your ex makes life complex.. you'll regret it eventually

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    • sheilarae1987
      11 years ago

      Perhaps.

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      • la_uva_mojada
        11 years ago

        I don't know how old u are, but Ive been around the block enough times, (I'm 37) while hindsight is 20/20, I can almost guarantee the odds are not in your favor to have a long term desired outcome. That is if what u really want is to find Mr right, fall in love and be swept off your feet.

        For a couple reasons, really. You could be wasting time with this Guy while Mr right (AKA destiny) meets somebody else. Also, at least in my opinion, it's not deserving of good karma, really, to discover the person that could make u truly happy.

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        • sheilarae1987
          11 years ago

          I'm 25 years of age, and what I want/wanted (what have you) is a tapering off method since together we suck relationship wise but the sex is so awesome.

          I'm not really looking for Mr. Right, just Mr. Right now, and if I meet the right one, that 'Now' part will gradually fade away naturally.

          And I have met someone else, but we're in the friend/little bit more than friend phase, I'm taking it slowly with the other because he's decent and we click good, whilst slowly parting ways and having my sexual needs (now periodically, rather than the frequently it was) being fulfilled by mr. right now.

          I do appreciate your comment though, it's nice to see people with their heads on their shoulders instead of saying stuff like "sex without love is wrong"...."your posts suck" or putting their phone # out lol.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    The only reason to have such an arrangement where he says you aren't together but kind of are is for him to leave the door to start dating again without considering your feelings.

    Even though he says he's "not interested in anyone else" that will probably change sooner rather than later. And I guarantee you will be hurt when it does. Proceed with caution.

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    • sheilarae1987
      11 years ago

      On a level I don't want to admit, I can agree with that.

      Which is why, except for the sex, I keep my distance.

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    Really your 'ex'? Would you say?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I used to with my previous ex, yeah. I still had feelings for him but our personalities and our idea of how a relationship should be were so conflicting. In fact, to me, he's only my ex-fwb, to him, I'm an ex-girlfriend.

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  • sheilarae1987
    11 years ago

    yeah, a nice 'safety net' sexually to tide me over until I begin dating again is nice.

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