Is it normal to believe your parents are better than everyone else's?

Most kids grow up with the sincere belief that their childhood, if anything else, is utterly the picture of normality, and everyone else's family life, if different, is just plain strange. That's just how selfish childish minds work.

The more I learned about my friends' parents the more I realized what I have might in fact be very rare. I'm not even talking about kids with parents who fight, abuse them, or get divorced and screw them up. I'm talking about your average run-of-the-mill mom and dad.

My parents love me unconditionally. Nothing I do or say can change their affection for me. They knew exactly how to teach me effectively without hurting me or scaring me.

Neither of my parents are stereotypical. My mom isn't vain. She doesn't wear makeup or fuss about her looks at all. She puts everybody before herself and always has. Despite the self-sacrifice, she's the least bitter and resentful person I know. She's the coolest person in a crisis and always knows exactly what to do. Everybody falls in love with her instantly and wishes she was their mom. It makes me feel so proud.

My dad isn't the kind of dad that makes you feel as if you're constantly on trial. He lets himself express emotions, and is just as affectionate as my mom is. He doesn't act superior and treats me like a friend and an equal now that I'm grown up. Again, all my friends wanted to have my dad. Dad always knows exactly what to say to make me feel better. No one else I know does.

Together my parents are even better. They've never, ever once fought in my entire life. They're best friends too and love each other unconditionally, and I think that's the most important thing.

I've never had very much to be thankful for. If it wasn't for my family, I'd have nothing. They're what keep me sane. So I'm incredibly grateful.

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  • howaminotmyself

    Watch out for that pedestal. I'm not saying your parents aren't good people, but they are human, and humans can sometimes do very strange things. Most do what they can to raise a good child, but they still implant their perceptions of the world onto you without always letting you from the opinion yourself. This is how it works. Usually in later life you discover the difference between your beliefs and those that are imprinted on you.

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  • MangoTango

    I was happy to read that! :-)

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  • TrustMeImLying

    I don't know if I take sentences too literally sometimes or if I'm too much of a realist, but "better than everyone elses?" Forget parents I can't think of anything I can say that about. And I'm not implying I'm not happy with anything in my life, but you get the point

    I'd say my parents are pretty human and not as picture perfect as yours. Lovely pair of people with good hearts but not perfect, and have some glaring flaws... in parenting and personality (just like I probably will when I become one). In a way that worked out for me because I was able to separate their traits into things that I'd want to follow/keep with me, and things I'd do differently or learn from, but not imitate. I remember this opinion from House MD, and it's pessimistic but I liked it. It said something like "parents inevitably screw their children up no matter what. Even if they're perfect parents and never do anything wrong, they're still screwing you up by not screwing you up" :-)

    I wonder how differently I would have developed if they were as infallible as you describe... but it's just a wondering l. I wouldn't ever trade them for someone elses parents.

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  • Dot123

    That's not true. There is a lot of awful parents in the world. Not everyone has good parents.

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  • Shrunk

    My parents are too! Sad as this sounds they have been my only real friends. They aren't perfect but i don't care. I am thankful to have them anyway, especially when other people tell me how abusive their parents are :/

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  • thegypsysailor

    Nobody has better parents than mine.
    They never criticize, say a harsh word or complain about anything I do. They never come to visit, staying overly long and they are never obnoxious. They have never said a bad thing to or about my wife even though she's considerably younger than I am, and they do not bother their grand children ever.
    Absolutely the best dead parents anybody could hope for.

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  • reminiscent

    Its not selfish of a child to think their family situation is normal... they just have limited experiance.
    I meen even now as an adult I find some family's strange. Not just speeking about abuse... but normal families sometimes have little things that make me go...huh thats odd...not bad just different.

    I think I have the best mom ever :)
    My mom is very cool. We are into a lot of the same things. My mom sacrificed a lot for me and is still there when I need her...im very grateful for everything she has done. She is pretty active and enjoys life.
    Once my mom helped a friend of mine with all their homework too....my friend wasnt doing well in school but with my moms help her grades improved.

    I cant say much about my real dad other then the fact he is a nice guy... really stupid (probably because of the drugs he did when he was younger) but nice....lazy as well.
    I have only had one good father figure in my life so far... and I love him dearly even tho him and my mom seperated...on good terms I might add.
    But I always had my mom in my life and she did a really good job raising me. :)

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    • your mom sounds awesome (:

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      • reminiscent

        Thank you... I love her a lot
        you mom and dad sound awesome too :)

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  • Dad

    All I read was really good son (or daughter)

    In reality, most kids, scream fight, go out beyond their curfew etc etc. Causing their parents to 'parent' the child, thus making the child say: 'I hate you', whilst slamming their bedroom door behind them!!

    Jesus kid, you need to do something bad :D

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    • Well, I think I've done things that some parents would not be too pleased about. They've had to deal with my illness, depression and anxiety for years. A lot bad stuff has happened to me in the world which has caused me to react in a dangerous manner. Like I said before, they're all the good in my life. I'd be in a terrible place without them.

      Also, when my brother came out, they were so proud. It seems like things that strain some families bring mine closer.

      Thanks for what you said, though... It meant a lot.

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      • Dad

        I think its healthy to argue at times. I hope your anxiety has not been built up on holding things in ;)

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        • haha I argue enough with my brother (:

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