Is it normal to believe that marriage is just a sign of insecurity?

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No offense to you "happily married" people. It's just when I hear women/men beg their partners to get married even though the other isn't ready, or when I hear that a relationship ended because one got mad that the other didn't want to get married anytime soon, it pisses me off. It's like jesus! No one can just trust that love will keep them together? Like they need to get married to insure that it would be harder for the other to just walk out. To make sure that they actually try to work for it to avoid the messy divorce. Well here's a news flash for you--marriage works just as well as it fails. But that's not my point..My point is why do people NEED to get married? No one trusts in true love anymore which is why marriages aren't working out. Marriage is just a sign of insecurity..and no I haven't been married, I didn't just get out of a relationship due to my ideas on marriage, my parents' marriage wasn't some dramatic affect on my life, and I don't know if I would ever get married. My ideas are based on observations. I believe I can be with one man for the rest of my life, but the whole idea of getting married just seems so insecure. Is it normal that I feel this way?

Again--No offense to the people married and happy. I'm not saying marriage is wrong. It's just the people who act like they NEED/HAVE to get married to be happy seem so insecure which is why I think marriage is just a projection of that.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    The situation you're describing does seem like insecurity, yes.
    I am married an my husband and I talked about it for a while before hand, there was no fighting or strife over it. He brought up the idea and it worked for the both of us.
    It has it's legal and financial advantages (it makes our lives together less stressful when it comes to managing finances and paperwork as a married couple rather than individually). Marriage isn't necessary but if both parties are in mutual agreement, then you get a few perks. It's not for everyone, if you don't want to get married, don't do it.

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    Marriage isn't necessary, to be honest. Its just an expression of love and commitment, IMHO. It should be mutual and truly desired by both parties. Marriage is NOT a fixer for broken relationships which is, unfortunately, what some women seem to believe.

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  • Tallyho
    9 years ago

    Yo assohole
    To some it is insecurity but what about those fucked up children's who were born out of an unlawful wedlock illicit sex

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  • poon_jabber
    9 years ago

    Well, gays dont think so. Take away ur right to marry & u might change ur mind.

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    • mlbryan44
      9 years ago

      Do you still want to suck me off?

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      • poon_jabber
        9 years ago

        well, considering that proximity makes it difficult, Im not going to entertain somerhing thats not feasible.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Getting married young can be.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think in alot of ways it is a manifestation of insecurity as you suggested, especially when you see a much weaker person dominated by the stronger person in the relationship. I always ask myself how that can be enjoyable at all?? Its also used as more of a validation for society's acceptance, you could be a total weirdo but wait a sec, are you married? yes? alright well then you cant be that weird I guess.

    The pressure to do it is unbelievable in all honesty especially if you see friends doing it. Completely the wrong reason to be getting married in all honesty.

    I also have yet to see a single woman who is happier then any single man, BUT every married woman I know is happier then every married man.

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  • KenzieDivine
    12 years ago

    Of course its normal for you to think that...Its called an opinion. ?

    For the record, I agree.
    If the two people in the relationship mutually want to get married then yeah, thats fine. But if theres the one person that is just dying for the other to go through with marriage, even though they dont want to, that just is so illogical. Like HOW can someone even go through with it knowing their partners heart was not in it completely...So yeah. We share the same opinion.

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