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Everytime I see a couple in love, I think its fake... kinda like they only do it because society says to. Am I normal? Does anyone else see a couple so "in love" that it makes you laugh?
Love is different for every person experiencing it. Just because the love you see doesn't seem real to you, there's a high likelihood it feels very real for that couple. Who's to say which one is "right"? Experience is subjective.
I'm a huge, dorky romantic. I still believe I'm going to marry a prince and live in a castle.
I don't think it's fake. I just think it's a disease that I'm immune to.
"Fake" is actually fake, everythings real cause it WoUlDn'T HaPpEn OtHeRWiSe AnD StUfF!??
I believe they actually believe the chemical situation is more than it is and, in that sense, love is real. I'm a romantic that way.
Hey, now. I'm in love, and I completely understand that it's not magic. This is how we do things in this house: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gaid72fqzNE
I love Tim Minchin!
And, yeah, I was being a bit cynical in the way it's possible to be when one has been single for too long. Plus Christmas is coming up. Then Valentine's Bloody Day. There should be a law that single people can set off fireworks on Valentine's Day.
Haha. I think you can set off fireworks basically whenever you want where I live. I mean, you have to have a permit for the serious shit, but non-aerial fireworks are fair game, even if they're explosive. None of it is really enforced, though, so people usually drive across state borders, buy some fireworks that are illegal in this state (there are fireworks stores right across the border specifically for this purpose), then bring them back.
Mr Cobblepot-Trees and I don't usually do much for Valentine's Day. We went to an industrial show, once. I wish it were more like elementary school, where we decorated shoeboxes with slits cut in the top, then we put cards and candy in each other's boxes. I'm a sucker for candy, though.
I don't think it's fake in some cases. But I think "Young love" is complete bullshit. You don't love your partner. You want to get laid. Big difference.
It depends on your stance. If you've never been in love of course you'll think it's silly. But words cannot even describe how beautiful it is to be with someone who honestly loves you back. I believe a lot of people mistake love for other feelings, thus giving "true love" a bad name.
I didn't know real love until I met my significant other. He's the first man to treat me the way I deserve and love me for all my flaws. We both love comics and enjoy being hermits a decent amount of the time. He's my best friend and I'm his. Until you get to be with someone like that, you won't understand what all the hub-bub is about.
But "love" isn't for everyone. So it's okay to think it's stupid or feel like it's something you don't desire. :)
This reminds me of when my little sister was 10 and she laughed at me and said "You're not tricking me! Monkey aren't real!" Her reasoning? She's never seen one in real life before.
There's more to love than just romantic relationships. There's love in friendships and families too, and maybe it's tough to believe that love is real for you but I hope you do find it.
I fell in love with a boy. Oh how I loved him. But when all was said and done he was nothing like he said. Everything was all a lie. I felt like I had died. I begged and pleaded for it not to be true, for it all to be a bunch of lies. I want him to be the man that I had fell so easily for. I tried to find out who he was and love the man he really was. I tried,and tried. But then one day I went to his house, and he got me undressed (he was my frist), my one and only. He then held me down, and call in his friends, and they raped me. I ran, and suffered alone. Still longing of his love. Like a lost puppy I went back and back, every time to be beaten down. I missed the man who would treat me like his princess and spoil me with love. Now all I had was darkness and I couldn't come to bear. So I closed myself off from the pain and the hurt, waiting for him to grow up. I waited for years.... years, and years. Waiting for him to come back... finally I realized that this wouldnt happen. So I ventured off to find true love. At every door I opened wide was a man who tried to kiss me on a first date, or a man who would so easily crawl into bed next to me. I couldn't take it what were these monsters? I asked them constantly to wait, that I needed time to fall in love, time to accept and trust. But he didn't understand, stating blankly I'm not a virgin... if you are not a virgin its your job to put out. I've ran from man to man. Been without any sexual touching or sex for 5 years now.... looking for that perfect one. But every man is filled with lies. or chasing another girl. Then I watch my friends get married and divorced, watch my friends accept that there spose is cheating, watch them in emotional hurt. I havn't seen anyones relationship last, they are all like yeah he or she cheated on me, but we are working it out. My thought is WHY? In the last 2 years I've worked so much on myself. That my walls are huge, and my self esteem is through the roof. I love who I am more then anything in the world. I am glad for all my experiences that have lead me to such greatness. I am able to fully live my life in happyness never worrying about someone cheating or being with someone else. I gave up completely on dating, I dont want to date... its a waist of emotions and time. I am working every day to make my life better, and make the lives of the people around me better. There is no need for a guy to bring me down. Thats all they do... My best friends who have kids with the love of their lives, being told they were never loved. Whats the point in all of this? I see couples walking down the street and the guy or girl looks at someone walking past them with long eyes, like why am I stuck in this fucking relationship..... How do people pick to fall in love? it seems like a deases only set up for failure and hurt. You rarely see a happy old couple. they are normally sitting quite at tables eating, and young couples are like AWWW I want to be like them... then the old couple gets home sits in a chair and watches tv, in pure lonelyness. Its depressing... I feel like your more alone when your with someone then you are when you are by yourself. you can accept yourself better, and love yourself, rather then constanly worrying that the other is going to leave or lie to you. Its and easier life. simpler. And there is nothing wrong with being completely happy with it.
love is for the weak minded but if you must have it go for asexuals there the kind of people your looking for. we don't care about sex we don't lie (we don't need to) and we care for the ones who are kind to us.
I'm terribly sorry to read what you have been through, that must've been earth shattering. However, I am so happy to see that you've been able to find happiness. And you know, someday you'll meet someone who completely changes everything you ever thought about men. He'll treat you with respect and never make you do anything that causes you to feel uncomfortable. Sure, there's a TON of duche bags out there, and it SUCKS we have to put up with them before Mr. Right comes along. And maybe yours is still out there living his life, experiencing life and making mistakes so he can learn from them and grow. As have you. Someday, you'll find him and wonder why you doubted his existence.
At least, that's how it was for me. I was in a terrible relationship for two years with the boy I lost my virginity to. I had some other relationships after that, they progressively grew shorter and shorter. So did my patience. I seriously gave up and decided I would just focus on my happiness. Then came along my boyfriend. He started hitting on me via facebook (we met online, he lived 25 mls away when we met) so we could have our first few dates and we've been together ever since. He's my best friend, and I don't want to be with anyone else for the rest of my life. He feels the same about me. So I feel like I can say I believe in love, but not everybody needs it to be happy.
You're right, all you really need in life is to make yourself happy. But that doesn't mean someone else out there can't help. Just keep an open mind so if your dream boy does come around you won't be letting him pass you by. :)
Watch the Matrix, The Adjustment Bureau, Inception, Butterfly Effect, then me eating a sandwich and you shall know the truth of love :)
Lust is actively forcing your own priorities on someone else
Love is willingly placing someone else's priorities above your own