Is it normal to believe that every compliment i recieve is a lie?

So, do you have a tiny problem with self esteem? Why not just accept the compliments with grace, as they are rare enough, for most of us.

When people compliment you out of the blue, it's probably genuine. If you ask "do I look ok" or are fishing for compliments, then you might get lied to or a good friend might tactfully tell the truth.

If you assume they are all lies, then you're missing out on a lot of genuine compliments!

I honestly believe most people aren't nearly that cynical. People lie to give their friends more self-esteem because they love their friends and want them to be happy. That and social convention. It's not even really lying; friendship and social convention colour perception.

Think of it this way. Even if every compliment you get is a lie, it still means those people care enough about your feelings. There are some people who don't have anyone who even cares enough to lie to them, and I'd much rather be in your position than theirs.

Why is it we easily believe all of the negative, and doubt the positive things people say about us? Turn it around. People say negative things to make themselves feel or look better in comparison, and to hurt or manipulate. Someone going out of their way to spontaneously compliment has nothing to gain. Even if it WAS bull, and you can't tell the difference, then consider it genuine and take it! That way, even if it was given in malice, you're sticking it to the asshole who was rude enough to give a fake compliment anyway. Give yourself more credit, sweetheart. I wasted decades with your thinking, and i'm much happier now!

I am the same way. I think everyone is lying when they call me beautiful, think my hair looks nice, or otherwise compliment me. I think it is rooted in deep self confidence issues, where I do not see anything about me worthy of being complimented and think people lie whenever they say something nice; this mostly occurs with compliments about appearance. I have no problem taking compliments stemming from my actions.

This is interesting because it seems like 'white lies' are deemed acceptable by most people who are lying AND those who are being lied to. It may be a way to get out of something they don't want to do or talk about or a way to keep from hurting someone's feelings. But it isn't blatant manipulation or slander or ugly gossip.

If someone lies to me about my appearance or whether or not they have time hang out or talk for a while, I don't care. I've lied about stuff like that before, and it probably won't be the last time. I absolutely detest lies that meant to harm people. I had a friend who had to change jobs due to some dirty lies that someone started about her. Someone wanted her fired and they almost succeeded.

I guess, to you, white lies are the same as any lies. I don't see it that way.

I also feel this way, because of what people have done to me before.

I fell into that line of thinking too, and then I realized I was suffering from pretty serious depression. Self-talk is essential to remedying this issue. Count how many times you down yourself (mentally or verbally), it'll surprise you. Try to turn that around by eliminating those thoughts and replacing them with self-encouragement and compliments. Pretty soon, those compliments other people give you will be for real.

You sound like one of those people I don't like to associate myself with.

I am in <3 with you and thats no lie! Marry me please!!

In the past, due to issues of trust and low self-esteem, I have had difficulty believing others when they compliment me. I'm getting better with this, but even with the people I trust, when they compliment me, it completely takes me by surprise and I'll ask in disbelief if they really mean it.

I give honest compliments to people who try to look better.

I think I shart as well as anyone. And that's the truth

Oh no, I know when I do a good job with whatever it is I'm doing. I can believe in my own compliments, and outwardly I'll say thanks and accept the lies. I have some respect, but I don't believe them.