Is it normal to believe suicide is sometimes the answer?

Most people think no one should ever commit suicide. It's the knee jerk response to the thought of someone taking their own life. I used to think that too, but as I've met more people and seen more of the human condition, I've come to decide that's wrong. Some people are in situations so hopeless that they really are better off dead. People always say to suicidal people that if they just wait, they'll feel better. But that's not always true. For a few, that relief will never come no matter what. Some people really do have no hope for things to get better, ever. I agree that most suicides are over things that would have passed. But I also think it's an injustice to believe that there isn't anyone who is in such dire straits that death is the way out. It's right to try to help them, but maybe, just maybe, the peacefulness of death really is the only way for them to escape from the pain.

(No, I am not a suicidal person trying to rationalise it. But after years of observations, I do believe the above to be true.)

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Comments ( 23 )
  • Makes sense to me. Most suicide cases are of people whose problems were temporary but sometimes things just wont get better. Some examples I can think of are life in prison sentences, severe debilitating health problems that take away any enjoyment in life, or having an inevitable fate worse than death. However with things like breakups, loss of employment or possessions and death of someone close to you, life should go on and the future is still unknown.

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  • thr

    Yes. You have to die at some time anyway.

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  • IDiGAFi

    When it comes to guilt over something that person has done, maybe you are right. I mean, no one will ever take away what has already been done. Depending on what it is, sometimes death may be the answer. Still, I'm not so sure.

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  • Erik963

    There is only one answer.

    You were abducted by aliens.

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  • PureLikeSnow

    Definitely not. I don't understand how people can override their instinct to survive and go through with such a tragic, yet pitiful form of dying.

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals

      If you can't understand it then you have never suffered enough. It's neither tragic nor pitiful to end a life of suffering, despair, hopelessness and grief.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    My life is my property and I didn't choose to be born. I had no say in how I came to live and anti-suicide crusaders want to have a say in how and when I exit as well.

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  • SuperBenzid

    The game of life is hard to play
    I'm gonna lose it anyway
    The losing card I'll someday lay
    so this is all I have to say.
    suicide is painless
    It brings on many changes
    and I can take or leave it if I please.

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  • Sure, why not?

    Jains, Buddhists, and people on hunger strikes, are known to do it. I think, oh, there's so many people on the Earth, why not? Is that cruel?

    I also think suicide, shouldn't be looked at purely from a Christian/conservative "right to life/value of life" perspective. I think there are just reasons. And, well, why should we stop anyone?

    On the other hand... the only thing we have, that we know of, is now. And wanting someone to stick around, and enjoy it, that's noble too, in a more more sappy awwwww kinda way.

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  • Nephew7

    If i had a gun i would kill myself, you die anyway and afterwords your life was nothing no matter what you did, memorys erased..perception turns void, people always say it would be like nothing, but how can a dead brain perceive nothing?

    But i always realize im better off living it out, whats the worse that can happen

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  • dirtybirdy

    Be the next Jack Kevorkian.

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    • You don't know.

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      • dirtybirdy

        All I know is that I don't know anything.

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        • That's alot of knowing birdy!

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          • dirtybirdy

            I know.

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            • I Knew that you'd know.

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  • westoptic

    I'm going to have to disagree, as last week a friend of mine committed suicide, and I don't see it as viable option of dealing with problems.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Go for it.

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  • NotStrangeBird

    It's pretty well documented that suicide pills are a part of many spy agency's playbooks, their agents preferring to kill themselves rather than risk capture, torture and possible betrayal.

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  • dom180

    I'm not sure. All I know is that it sounds very patronising and parentalistic when someone tells someone who wants to kill themself saying that "suicide is never the answer" when they have no understanding of the situation. Voluntary euthanasia should definitely be legal and acceptable though, because in those cases there really is no hope for the person and to allow them the choice to die painlessly and at the time of their choosing that would be nothing but compassionate.

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  • loopoo

    Yes. Sometimes people don't want to live anymore, they genuinely see no end to their problems. But what about things like, euthanasia? or Assisted Suicide, 'the right to die' I don't think people will ever agree when it comes to suicide.

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  • ScooterNyne

    There have been situations in my past where I started contemplating suicide. I never got close to doing it but I pondered, "What about this situation would be different or better if I just disappeared"? Honestly, I still don't know weather it's right or wrong. I think for me it depends on if you're leaving anyone behind. If there are people that love you then you should stay alive and endure if only for them. If there is absolutely no one in the world that would care if you were gone, and you were miserable, then maybe it's ok. I believe that there is ALWAYS someone out there that cares for you though. You can find love from the most unlikely people.

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  • deerhunter123

    if you think about it you need to get help ASAP

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