Is it normal to become more offended when people say "no offense, but"

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People say this all the time, and it's always bothered me. It's pretty much like saying "i'm going to be rude. And i'm going to apologize for it before I say it, just so you know that I know i'm being rude, but i also don't want to offend you."

It's pointless. If you're going to insult someone, they WILL take offense to it regardless of wether you've said "no offense, but.." or not!

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  • Bananas0053
    12 years ago | pl

    Its a polite way of being a bitch.

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    No offense, but.......just basically means "Don't get mad, but I'm about to insult you" :-D lol

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I agree with you. It basically means "I'm about to offend you, but please dont lash back out at me." Pffft. You should be like "No offense, but..." and then punch them in the face.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yeah I hate this saying too.

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  • D_revolting_enigmaaaaa
    12 years ago

    .NO IF SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING RUDE ITS RUDE PLAIN AND SIMPLE BUT IF THEY OFFER CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICSIM THEN .... NO OFFENSE IS OK.... IT SOUNDS LIKE IF U GET OFFENDED ANYWAYS THEY MEANT TO SO U SHOULD SAY SOMETHING ABOUT THAT

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  • Short&2thepoint
    12 years ago

    My brother tried that on me, I whacked him over the head and walked off saying "no offense"

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    "With all due respect...."

    =)

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    I use "I'm going to be honest"

    An then I'm honest, it works better.

    I'm going to be honest, your friend is a hack.
    I'm going to be honest, you're a terrible navigator.
    I'm going to be honest, that's bad color on you.

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    • D_revolting_enigmaaaaa
      12 years ago

      That is constructive critcisim not being rude HIGE DIFFERENCE

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    YES!!!! I absolutely hate that! Whats the point in saying, "no offense" when they really are about to offend you? And when they say no offense, it's pretty much them dropping the warning that what they're about to say is probably gonna be hurtful.

    Its like, "No offense, but you look really horrible right now!". Now, do you think those two words, that they made sure to say before they dropped the bomb, is gonna make what they have to say seem easier to take.

    "They told me I look really horrible right now."

    "Did you tell them off?"

    "No, because they said no offense before they told me."

    "Oo.. okay?"

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    my brain is going round and round and round (dappled) my fave is "to be honest with you" was everything else a lie?

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Exactly.

    If you don't mean to be mean, just don't be mean. Don't be mean and preclude the mean with a statement telling everyone you're going to be mean but you really don't mean to be mean. Because you do mean to be mean. And not only that, you're telling everyone in advance just in case they were going to miss you meaning to be mean.

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    • D_revolting_enigmaaaaa
      12 years ago

      No no no no.... you have the wrong idea . If they say no offence and you still get offended then they were being rude period.... butt then if they say no offence and give you constructive critcisim then its different. Just like if i say no offence but dappled is a terrible name for a villian.. then its nothing... but if i say no offence your name is a gay ass homoirotic name ....(i guess) then yea...... so it is a BIG difference

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        But I'm a villain. All villains need a subtext. Perhaps mine is just homosexuality. You should be scared. Think of what I could do to you. :P

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        • D_revolting_enigmaaaaa
          12 years ago

          Ha ha ha .... your tactics are elementary...ENIGMA AWAY....IN A HURRY

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          • dappled
            12 years ago

            You can run but you can't hide forever from my sword of injustice!

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    I totally agree! I was thinking about this the other day actually.

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  • Shrunk
    12 years ago

    yes, and did you also notice when you're laughing at someone and they say "i'm serious!" it makes you want to laugh even harder

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  • supernever
    12 years ago

    In my experience, statements that must be prefaced with "no offense, but" are probably better left unsaid.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    We should all get baseball bats

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