Is it normal to be with someone you don't even like?

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Right now I'm in a tough situation with my boyfriend. He is my first bf because I never liked settling down before. However, one day I just got tired of it and wanted to feel how settling down was and coincidentally I met my boyfriend around that time and he showed that he would be a good bf so it was perfect. For the first few months with my bf, I was happy and satisfied like wow this isn't as hard as I thought, I am not interested in anyone else, I am into him, he treats me well, we get along, etc. But two factors were gonna catch up to me eventually 1) he wasn't my type in the first place and 2) this is my first relationship so eventually I was gonna get that feeling back of just wanting to be free and do what I want.
A huge reason why is because I went away to college and I see and meet guys that are actually my type but I have a bf who treats me like a princess yet he is not my type. Ugh I just feel like I'm with him because he treats me well not cause I actually like him as an individual and I mean what girl doesn't want a good bf. Recently I have almost cheated twice but one was just at a party but the other, Ive been texting him and he knows I have a bf but that kind of doesnt stop us from hanging out. We hang out civilized knowing there are limits but you can't help but feel the tension like what we really wanna do. Hes been drunk around me a few times and yeah started giving me affection because alcohol pursues your intentions you can't pursue when sober. So he was doing that and I was stopping him yet I loved that feeling again the affection especially if I do kind of have a crush on him. So I was in the wrong too but we didn't kiss or anything. So I wanna have fun now but I don't wanna lose a good bf. I told him hes my best friend now and if we can stay like that but he says he can't be around me as friends knowing Im with someone else. He wants me as his gf. I don't wanna break up with him just cause I wanna have fun at the moment but I don't wanna cheat on him either cause its hard to resist temptation. Im just hoping whatever I decide to do is the right decision.

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    Very very selfish person is all I can think to say. You treated this human being as your experiment. Didn't disclose this, and now you've completed it you're going to cut him to pieces and discard him. I hope you carry the guilt for a very long time for what you have done, and are about to do to this decent sounding young man.

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  • Cricketchirp
    11 years ago

    I agree with jmont...things don't get better as time goes on. Any guy may treat you like a princess but that doesn't mean there is a real relationship there. Many other people will be sweet and nice to you, too, but you can't use that as your only criteria for a relationship. You are still young and there is no need to settle down yet. Many people aren't ready for a serious committment until later in their life, there is nothing wrong with that. Let him go before you take good years away from him. I married someone who treated me well, but I didn't love him. Eventually I started resenting him because I felt trapped, and it was my own fault. Stuff like that can lead to years of regret. Until you have children, your first priority is yourself! Don't feel bad about your own happiness, it's a human right.

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  • JMont
    11 years ago

    A healthy relationship is one where both people are happy with the relationship and would never cheat. If you really don't feel like you two should be together then break up (Don't stay friends after). Follow your feelings. If your feeling like this now, I doubt it will get any better as time goes on. Just remember how you felt when you made the decision that way you don't look back and decide you made the wrong decision.

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  • TylerDurden
    11 years ago

    You child

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  • TylerDurden
    11 years ago

    Stop leading him on

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  • DiamondGirl
    10 years ago

    Please Beyotch, get over yourself. There r more important things in life. You sound very immature. Grow up!

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  • SeverusFan23
    11 years ago

    No. It's not.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    I don't think you understand what a relationship is.

    The reason that your first and only relationship is with a spineless push-over is because you treat men like play-things and anybody with even a shred of self-respect wouldn't want to have anything to do with you.

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  • Jessroxsmyworld
    11 years ago

    One question WHY?

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