Is it normal to be with someone for 8yrs and still be bf and gf?

You guys are still pretty young. If you started dating at age 20 and had not moved it would probably not be a good thing, but you started dating while in high school, right? You have just really started adulthood at 23, and I think your boyfriends reasons for not popping the question yet are not bad ones. He seems super responsible like he doesn't want you to struggle to survive. Sounds like a nice guy. Give him a little more time, you will be alright. =)

Tell your bf this and not to be mean but get used to the guy spending money on his toys. You women have the house and decorate stuff while us guys we have our vehicle. No matter what you do being with a different man will be different dont you think being financially stable is more important than being husband and wife. Your still the same 2 people when you are married you just change your last name thats it.

Talk to your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel. If you already have maybe he has a commitment problem. Nothing changes once your married except your last name, you get a piece of paper and it's harder for you to leave if things don't work out

I've told him how I feel, I always tell him, and his response to everything is "don't worry I'll sort it out". Another thing...his job doesn't pay well, what he gets goes straight on his car! I'm just fed up and I don't know what to do...when I'm with him I forget everything and all is good, but when we are apart...5 times a week I'm fed up!

My brother dated his wife for 9 years before proposing. He didnt have commitment problems, he was just nervous

If you're bored with him after 8 years, you'll be extremely bored after 18 or 28 years. Neither of you are even fully adult yet so you'll either grow up in the same direction together or in opposite direction apart.

My mom always said "The one you'd marry at 20, isn't the one you'd marry at 30, and the one you'd marry at 30 isn't even the one you'd marry at 40."

I thought - loada crap! Until I lived through each of those ages :o( Don't be in a rush to get married, get out there and live a little before you get tied down!!

Yes to your main question, but no to the background story. You both need to have a serious and honest discussion..

After all this time you would think that you two could communicate better. Let him know that you are having feelings of leaving, but be prepared! Good luck with your choices

I am in a similar boat. My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, and we too have been together since we were 15. As much as we would love to get married, we are both currently college students and have no way of paying for it. Since we both want to go to graduate school, we're not going to have real careers for quite a while. Instead, we've agreed to start saving money (a little from our student loans, a few bucks from paychecks, going out less and putting that money away) so that hopefully in a few years we will have enough.

You should discuss doing similar if he truly wants to marry you. No matter what, you need to tell him how you feel or else you are going to get more and more frustrated.

Wow since you were 15? that's way too long! Have some fun :)

Sounds like he is hesitant on committment to me. I have seen people go through the same thing before at the same age as you actually.

It could be that he's just not ready to get married or make a big financial committment to you. And if that's something that you are wanting - I would suggest talking to him about it. Otherwise you could continue to play the waiting game for several more years.

My boyfriend told me he would not marry me unless we had a semi stable place to live. (Like a house or an apartment)

And I'm fine with that. I would like to have a place if I were to get married, instead of getting married and basically not living together because of financial needs.

You guys definetly need to work it out or you're going nowhere.

Your relationship sounds like it's going no where.