Is it normal to be wary of overly nice people?

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Whenever people are overly nice for no apparent reason I get wary instead of being really nice back. For example, on my first day at a new job, I met this one coworker who was extremely nice to me. He was really open and told me about his life, what he has studied, how much he makes per month, where else he has worked and then he even gave me this drink (a fresh closed can of energy drink) without me approaching him or asking for any of these things. And from that day on, he has always said hi and how are you what's going on when he sees me. And when I didn't return his extreme level of interest and friendliness, he looked at me strange. With mean people, at least you know what you're dealing with, but with overly nice people it's like I should feel bad for not being overly nice back to him. :/

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm somewhat the same but I treat them in return with kindness most of the time.

    I remember in college I had accidently cut myself and this guy who was incredibly nice for no reason came up tome asked if I was alright, grabbed my hand (not in an aggressive way) and led me over to the sink...I mean, I was a bit confused...For one I knew where it was but he felt the need to help me out. He washed my hand, plastered it, and then ended it with a "As good as new. :)"

    I was a bit blown back because the world would be a better place with people like that however I got this hint of fakeness from it.

    And given I'm known to act nice to people all the time in my life I don't really care about it and do it just out of some sort of reaction.

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    • EccentricWeird
      9 years ago

      Thanks for your input, that's great!

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        It really was.

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        • EccentricWeird
          9 years ago

          Superb!

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          • CountessDouche
            9 years ago

            *gives you an unopened energy drink and tells you about my life, then stabs you

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    • wandaring0
      9 years ago

      Sometimes people are fake, and sometimes they are genuine. I used to be that way: always friendly, kind, and cheerful/positive. The world consists of all personality types. Honestly, I never expected anything back in return. As goofy as it sounds, I liked cooking and baking and had no one to bake for, so I'd cook for coworkers and customers. If I wanted to play around with crafts, I'd make stuff for people and give it to them. I guess I didn't care if the stuff got trashed or whatever as I just got to keep busy and felt like I was doing something productive. I used to want to be nice to people, but now I am afraid of them. Just be mean a few times and threaten to sue them or have them arrested for offensive touching or something for grabbing your hand to help you, and they will stop. Or, say they hurt you when you grabbed your hand. This freaks us nice people out because we try not to hurt people. With enough negative reactions, all of us nice people will be paranoid recluses and won't annoy you anymore :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't know, it just makes me think what their ulterior motives are. And it's something else if somebody comes up to you to help you because you need help and then leaves you alone or if they persistently try to talk to you and be extra nice to the point of becoming annoying.

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      • wistfulmaiden
        9 years ago

        Im one of those annoying nice people. I bring people snacks, give them magazines and ask about their birthday. I don't know why I don't do it expecting to get anything, my mom was always very giving and I guess it rubbed off on me. I like making other people happy(too much sometimes).
        If youre not comfortable just don't say much in return, he/she will probably get the point.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      He just wanted to touch your majestic pale skinned beauty.

      I dunno, sometimes people do that to me and if it's the right sort of person I rather like it. Maybe it's cause I'm from the Deep South here in he U.S. of A. People tend to be more touchy feely down South. I don't want just anyone doing that to me, but with some it just feels right.

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  • Ocean239
    9 years ago

    No offense to overly nice people, but I hate overly nice people. They make me feel like they want something from me, because that's what my family does. When they want something, they are like really fucking nice to me, and I get all creeped out and ask what they want, and they tell me, then I "NO!" O.O

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yea, same with me! And it turned out he was being extra nice because he wanted to have s*x with me and brag to our colleagues, so my suspicion was waranted! I've never met someone who was overly nice without any hind-thoughts except maybe masochists or codependents but even they don't keep it up for too long.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Once in a while these people have alterior motives maybe 1 in 1000 times. But a lot of people are genuinely friendly and like to share or be giving.

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