Is it normal to be upset that he's always checking his phone?

Every time I go out with my boyfriend, it's fine for like the first eight minutes. No matter what we're doing, he always starts checking his phone, texting people and calling people. He always sounds much more cheerful on the phone to someone else than when he's talking to me. I try not to use my phone when I'm with him, although I check it occasionally. I understand that he has more friends than I do, but still. It makes me think like either he doesn't want to be around me or I'm boring him. Is it normal to be upset with him?
Also, I apologize for the length.

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Comments ( 21 )
  • DubstepismyMJ

    No thats quite rude.

    No matter how much friends you have a loving boyfriend will always find time for his girl. Undivided and devoted attention.

    Your boring him? How about him boring you? Girl your to selfless

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    • Theadage

      EXACTLY!

      He's the rude one.

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    • nkwacky

      yeah.. confront him on this. he's being a jerk.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I fucking hate it when people do that.

    Oh right so if i am so fucking boring why did you come to my house you dick.

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  • I also hate when I'm hanging out with someone and they just fuck around on their phone.
    It's rude because I feel ignored. Real life should always take priority over digital life.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    No, not okay.
    I myself don't own a smart phone. Sometimes I'll sit at lunch with some coworkers in absolute silence. Everyone is just sitting there having digital conversations with people who aren't there, not even looking at each other. I'll be awkwardly looking around and asking myself what the f**k...

    He's being a jerk but he probably doesen't know. The whole phone thing is still kind of new to society so we weren't told as a child what's rude and what's not. I think it's time you tell him.

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    • AbnormallyAwesome

      Also you might agree with Jerry Seinfeld:
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=PYDA7__znfY

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  • I'm a guy and I feel it's completely rude and unacceptable behavior.

    I don't tolerate that kind of behavior from anyone even my guy friends.

    Luckily my friends don't do that sort of thing and if they did I'd just leave.

    If you haven't told your bf how rude and hurtful that is to you then you need to.

    If you have told him and made it clear how disrespectful it is and he still does it you should probably spend less time with him or break up with him.

    When I'm with anyone a new girl I'm dating or long term gf, or just a buddy. I generally turn off my phone so it's not a problem.

    I actually got rid of my 'smart' phone because it's so annoying to be always bothered by texts, calls, etc.

    Everyone deserves to treated well and respected.

    Don't settle for less :)

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    • randomthoughts

      well said

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      • TY TY :)

        I wanted to add some other possibilities:

        Some people (like my brother) are kind of absent minded for example he's a pot head and he's constantly on his phone or blabbing in person - even to his dog. If you're the person he's talking to you, you'd probably find it hard to say anything cause he can talk forever. He just 'loves' talking and isn't really aware that he's being rude and if people tell him it's only a temporary quiet.

        Another possibility is this guy wants to break up with you and he's too immature to do it so he's intentionally doing things to make you not like him.

        Talk to him and find out why.

        On a side note I have a funny story about my cat.

        My cat loved my attention so much that once I was on the phone talking to a Doctor and I was ignoring her little meows.
        Well she didn't like that so after a couple of minutes she decided she'd had enough!

        I was standing up with my back to her and she jumped up onto my back and dug her claws in me as deep as she could and then she just hung there!

        HOLY SHIT I screamed so loudly and freaked out!
        I had to swat her off of me and the Doctor freaked out as if someone stabbed me, LOL.

        Oh well, she was a crazy stray cat I took in and made my family.

        She recently died :(

        She was my best friend I ever had.

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  • ccjigsaw

    Yeahhhh, he's being rude. Doesn't matter if you have a million friends, when you're hanging out with someone, you shouldn't be on your phone 24/7. When I go to coffee with my best friend, I don't mind if she texts a little, or has to pick up a work call, but if she was doing what you say your boyfriend is doing, I would say something.

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  • ScooterNyne

    Don't dump someone just because they check their phone too much. You people are so shallow. Just talk to him. It's really simple. Tell him how you feel about his little habit and work it out. All the games you girls play with guys and then you wanna complain about someone texting too much. Jesus.

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    • MysteriousChick92

      Umm, OP's boyfriend is a rude jackass who clearly thinks calling/texting other people is more important than paying some attention to his girlfriend. Why spend time with her if you're not even going to converse with or anything?

      And all the games WE play? Men play plenty of games, too. Get off your high horse, grow up, and shut up.

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  • AdamDav

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  • TiaraLJ

    My partner did, actually does the same thing. Worse still we were going out for coffee, my idea, for some time together before he went away. He spent the whole time texting on his phone and making a call. I felt totally disrespected, un-important, not to mention upset. Also bad manners regardless no matter who does it. Left my feeling totally felt unimportant. Tried to explain it to him but just gives excuses for his behaviour. Was only a few days ago but I'm still down about it.

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  • LemonCheese123

    I understand where you're coming from. Makes you feel like he'd rather be texting/talking to them rather than being with you.

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  • (s)aint

    It depends on how much you hang out! Thankfully me and my BF can see eachother several times a week. Like 5-6 out of seven.
    So to me It's fine if we both check our phones or do other stuff but I still request cuddles without cellphones and the likes.
    He accepts this when I point it out, and we compromise.

    If you only see your BF during, say weekends he should be entertained enough by you and at least not have PHONECALLS. Its easier to throw away a text or two but ...yeah no.
    Talk to him.

    It's sort of upsetting that according to INN, people are not talking in their relationships AT ALL.
    if YOU feel that something is wrong, it is wrong.

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  • JBN

    I was on a date and I explained to that person that I was expecting one call from Hawaii regarding something important and I need to take it. What I meant was I am not going to be looking at it unless it rings and is that call. Well, he kept looking at his the entire night. No second date.

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  • JBN

    How old is this man? Sounds like an immature kid. Tell him to leave his phone in the car and not have it on him when you are out on a date. Yes he will live, he isn't that important. If he won't then you know you are not a priority. Live with it or take a stand. Period.

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  • youareaghost

    He sounds pretty boring and annoying to me. I would either encourage that he focuses on me, or dump him.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe you need someone else, someone with good manners.

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