Is it normal to be upset that everything is 50/50?

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Is it normal that I am upset with my boyfriend because everything is 50/50? He has never had a serious gf and we live together now. He earns more than me and we split everything at home. And when we go out 90% of the time we go 50/50. He is very generous with his family though. When we go out he always pays for his younger bro that is still studying, which is fair, but I am still expected to pay for myself. He adores me in every other way and wants to marry me but I can't live my whole life like this. Do u think he will change after marriage? What's funny is I don't think he has a clue that anything is wrong. I don't think its unreasonable to want to be spoiled once in a while?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    You're complaining about things being 50/50... as in paying for the bills?

    Welcome to the real world. Just because you have ovaries doesn't mean your boyfriend has to pay all the bills.

    Besides, why can't YOU pay for a night out yourself?

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    • yourfuckinghero
      13 years ago

      Word. Have a thumbs up!

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  • missmeow
    12 years ago

    You're a stupid bitch.
    I hate women that want to be spoiled and taken care of. Give me your boyfriend, I can never find one that believes relationships should be equal

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I agree with you. I don't think it's unreasonable to be spoiled once in a while. He should spoil you at least as often as you spoil him. When was the last time you spoiled him, by the way?

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      13 years ago

      exactly. there's no reason the woman cannot pay for a night out.

      if the man always pays for everything... well at least prostitutes are honest about what they are.

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      • dappled
        13 years ago

        Although ask any man how he feels after a woman has just paid for everything, and a lot will feel quite uncomfortable. We still have lots of prejudices to break down.

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  • legendary27
    13 years ago

    I can understand if he's a total ass about you paying exactly half for everything but if it's just something that's always been implied and you've never really spoken up about it then there actually isn't anything wrong with it because he doesn't know it's something that bothers you.

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  • Christi
    12 years ago

    It's normal. I used to date a guy 10 years older than me. I was a student and he had a well-paid full time job but insisted on the 50% thing. He got really stressed and uncomfortable when he gave a couple of pounds more, like that was money not well spent.When in a trip in Paris he asked me for pocket money to go buy a bottle of wine i was fed up. I don't believe your boyfriend will change after marriage. I am sorry to say so but if this upsets you know you have to do something about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Going dutch ( 50/50 ) on a regular basis was one of the biggest benefits of the sex equality movement.

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  • Legion
    12 years ago

    if i had a time machine, id set the dial for 1950 and throw you in there. Youd fit right in.

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  • jbf
    13 years ago

    Tell him might help??

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  • gako
    13 years ago

    @randomjelly: hello

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Have you tried talking to him? Hello?

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    • yourfuckinghero
      13 years ago

      No, it seems that actually bringing it up would be more work than complaining about it and being resentful.

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  • yourfuckinghero
    13 years ago

    I feel that you're acting entitled. If you are willing to be subject to the man, and give up equality for the sake of being "taken care of", there are definitely men out there that are wiling to do that for the small price of your own free will.

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