Is it normal to be upset over a crush you barely know?

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Theres this guy i have a crush on and we arent close. and i used to cry when he got a girlfriend or something like that, and well even though i didn't know him well i really liked him for some reaosn. is it weird to have someone you barely know be a big part of your life like this? i'm trying to move on but it's hard for me to come to the realization that a relationship is not going to happen with this guy, and i get upset, almost like i lost him but i really didn't lose him because i never had him. is this feeling normal? maybe i'm not upset over him because lets face the fact that i dont know him well, but maybe i'm upset because the fact that i did not get something i really wanted? opinions? advice? thank you.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    It's often the things that we didn't do that we remember the most. Mark Twain said it better but I forget how the actual quote goes. In all honesty, I think this feeling you have is something that many people have. Its sort of like guilt over not making a move sooner, that's what I get out of it anyways. Moving on can be hard but maybe you could try to find someone new? And this time you shouldn't twiddle your thumbs waiting for him to ask you out; make the move and see where life takes you.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    Oh, I can relate to this all too well. 9th grade, emotionally wrecked, Clint Minyard. Yeah, I swore I was in love with him. Lol, I stocked him everywhere he went. We were from two different worlds, though. He was one of the jocks, hung out with all of the cheerleaders...you know...that kind of thing, and I was the quiet, emo girl who sat in the corner by myself writing in the journal the no one ever set eyes inside of except me. Yeah; I definatly remember those days and how it felt to be absolutaly in love with someone that you barely even knew. I cried over him all the time. For me, I wasn't afraid of staring at him from a distance, but I had hadn't the nerve to talk to him. I would get pissed everythime I saw him with another girl, and one of his friends on the cheerleading team (who probably like him too, now that I think about it) did everything in her effort to make me jealous of the fact that she had a friendship with him and I did not. I couldn't stand that bitch, lol. Strangly, though, as soon as my crush oon this boy was over, I hadn't paid a cent of attention to her through out the rest of high school. I never even saw her anymore and she lives righ down the street from me. It just goes to show the things you care about when you really like someone, though. I guess after my envious streak was over, she didn't mean anything to me anymore, my hate for her had faded. Anyways, about the boy I liked, he eventually moved (after my crush on him had ended, so it didn't hurt too much). I haven't heard from him since; not on facebook, twitter...nothing.

    But for you (sorry to waste your time with my long story, lol) if you really like him, try to make friends with him. Don't be like me and wait until the last moment. Try to get to know him and, who knows, it could become something more.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal, yeah. I've had my fair share of crushes and some of them were really big. The weird thing is, the people involved probably had no idea. This will sound odd to some but I don't really approach girls. They come to me. I've actually got quite a shy side and most of the people I've been knocked out by, I never approach. Then I think about it pretty much forever.

    I don't know what to advise because I'm no different. Maybe it's just part of life.

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