Is it normal to be upset at my boyfriend for watching porn?

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I've had past trauma so I really don't like pórñ. I hate it so much. And I know that my boyfriend watches it. It hurts me so much. I'll never stop him from watching it but sometimes it ruins the whole entire night because I get so upset and it starts fights. I get physical pain in my stomach and he's close to breaking up with me. He said no one else is like this. He calls me crazy for it. What do I do to be less jealous and mad? Is it normal to be upset at my boyfriend for watching pørñ?

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    My girlfriend doesn't like me watching porn, so I don't. She says she can't stop from me doing it and knows it's normal but I don't because I know it would make her insecure.

    If he's considering breaking up just because the guy can't watch porn, considering it a blessing in disguise. No-one should value porn over their relationship or their partners emotional health.

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    • Sad0000
      5 years ago

      We're a young couple and he's 17 so he doesn't understand it. What can I do to make him understand that it hurts me so much and i don't want him watching it? Sometimes I throw up because the stomach pain is so bad :/ it's getting out of hand

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      • HeTalksInMaths
        5 years ago

        I get you but it sounds like also a mental issue on your side, although there are guys & girls who don't watch porn. if it's important to you, you can find a guy who doesn't, but it may be more difficult. it's also kind of inconsiderate for him to say you're crazy and all that, so IDK how great he actually is. but I guess you're just kids so you don't know much better

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        If you are throwing up because of it you need help. It's not the porn, that's just a symptom of a deeper issue.

        When he gives up porn, you will find another fixation to blame and throw up because of that.

        Please deal with your past. You deserve it.

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  • MisterPapaya
    5 years ago

    You need to realize that he's most likely not watching porn with the intention of hurting you or because he loves you less than the naked women in the videos.

    Men are very visual and fueled by testosterone. That's the reason porn exists in the first place. It's literally one of, if not THE, largest industries in the world. So I'm sorry to say that him watching porn is way more normal than you opposing it.

    Is he also not allowed to use sex toys? Or have any fetishes?

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    • Sad0000
      5 years ago

      He can do whatever he wants and I'm fine with any kinks he has it's just stress put on me with the porn. I have no clue why :/

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    5 years ago

    I'm a woman who watches porn and if my boyfriend got all tiffy about what I do in my free time, I'd either tell him to deal with it or dump him. I don't need unwanted drama.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Dump him, and find a new boyfriend?

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      Bad advice. Probably won’t find many guys that DON’T watch porn. Most guys do watch porn and there’s nothing wrong with it!

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    • Sad0000
      5 years ago

      Well the problem is I don't want to. We're great together, he's tall, handsome and so funny. But it's just that. Breaking up won't solve the problem. Any other advice? I can't imagine breaking up with him.

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        Get into therapy to deal with your past trauma and stop making your boyfriend change because of your past baggage. As you say, he is great in most other aspects.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        I dunno, does he look at a lot of pornography? Maybe he's addicted to it?

        You could check out this:

        http://www.cosa-recovery.org/whatis.html

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        • HeTalksInMaths
          5 years ago

          Have you been with guys who don't watch porn?? I mean I guess before internet a lot less people were probably into it

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Oh yeah! It's very rare to find someone who has never seen or watched porn before, but I still maintain that watching lots of pornography on a regular basis is not normal or healthy.

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  • cipro
    5 years ago

    No its normal. Watching porn is normal for us males. Consider medication and therapy for ur trauma.

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  • trexagireve
    5 years ago

    Watch it with him, find out what he likes and do it for him and he will forget about the porn

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    • Sad0000
      5 years ago

      Yeah, no. Because then he'll be focusing on the porn and not me. I want all the attention from him and not have it taken away by stupid porn.

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      • trexagireve
        5 years ago

        You can show him some femdom related porn and tell him that this is the kind of porn that you prefer and maybe you should try that starting with chastity devices, after you lock him in the chastity he will not want to watch porn because it will be to painful for him to have an erection while he is jailed down there, and then you can make some rules to win his freedom

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        • Sad0000
          5 years ago

          Lol I'll totally try that out thanks for the advice

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