Is it normal to be upset about fake high end jewelry?

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At Christmas I was given several pieces of jewelry from Tiffany - a necklace, bracelet, earrings, and a ring. They were given to me by a man who I've been seeing for almost two years, someone who says he wishes to marry me. Upon recieving these gifts, I had a suspicion they were inauthentic; I own several baubles from Tiffany, and grew slightly suspicious when first seeing the boxes and bags - they appeared slightly, well, off. At any rate, the actual jewelry was difficult to pinpoint...I thought, wow, if these are fake they're getting quite good at creating inauthentic pieces out there!
At any rate, of course I didn't say anything about my suspicion...it was only a guess, and I wanted to be sure.
Turns out I was correct. Upon bringing them to Tiffany on 5th ave (I'm from NYC) to be cleaned, I was pulled aside and politely and discreetly informed that they would be unable to complete a cleaning as all of the pieces were inauthentic. Needless to say, I was quite embarassed but grateful I knew before I wore the items or had them appraised for my insurance.
I know that he didn't mistakenly get duped; he told me several times he was at the actual store when he bought them, claiming it was very difficult for him to choose but with the help of the sales team ended up choosing what I was given.
This means only that he lied to me, and intentionally gave me fake jewelry, pawning it off to me as though it was the real thing. I'm quite saddened by this and am very unsure about how to approach the issue with him.
I wear costume jewelry all the time, but I believe it tacky to wear inauthentic pieces from high end stores, and I will not do it.
He is also a very wealthy man, so does this mean he dies not feel I am worth the real thing?
Is it normal to be this bothered, ladies? And men, do you give fake high end jewelry to your girlfriends while saying it's real?
How should I approach the issue with him?

Thanks, everyone.

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Comments ( 13 )
  • missmeow
    12 years ago

    People are so quick to judge. I dont see her as materialistic but simply respectful to a brand. As an aspiring designer I can understand this too. Knock offs are disrespectful to a designer who puts in time and money to their creations. And I would never wear or purchase a knock off either. Not because it's not good enough, but because it's stealing someone roses design.

    Back to the problem. He lied, he's a douche. Confront him on it or see if he'll fess up.

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    All right, I'm just going to ignore any materialistic aspect in your post, as it has already been somewhat mentioned above.... I see it this way, your boyfriend not only misled you, but made up an entire story to lie to you. Red flag. If he had written you a poem and gone on about how much thought and love went into its creation, and then you found out it was plagiarized, I think it would be a similar circumstance. How could you commit to someone who you can't trust? Certainly he has lied before and he will lie again.

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  • howaminotmyself
    13 years ago

    I have no sympathy for you. I'm sorry your man lied to you. Couples should be honest with each other. However your need for a status symbol sickens me.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    It totally normal to be upset by this. It's demeaning to you that he'd lie about it, in every way. I'd be mad, too.
    The expense really isn't important- what got me is how he tried to trick you so deliberately by even mentioning the store and the buying process.

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  • KeyboardSolo
    13 years ago

    We all have faults. His is that he lied to you. Yours is that you're so simple and vain that you actually give a damn about the "authenticity" of a useless cosmetic item. He forgives you, you should forgive him.

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  • ucipher8
    11 years ago

    sounds like he's a cheapskate, but i guess cared enough to get you whatever it was he could afford because "your so vain". Obviously this turns you off so, dump him and find the daddy you've always wanted in life.

    Personally i would have given you something like an iPod for christmas and make you buy your own jewelry, unless if there was something really pretty that i thought you would like.

    And i wouldn't get you a bootleg version either, its called having class

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  • missmeow
    12 years ago

    *someone elses design. Wtf iPhone

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Materialism or no, the important thing here is that you've been lied to. He doesn't sound like much of a catch.

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  • babaG
    13 years ago

    Lying isn't cool but it's the thought that counts. Supposing he isn't just a cheap bastard, he probably just wanted you to be happy. Or to get laid. Either way, you, or both of you are very superficial

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  • americanhoney
    13 years ago

    I think perhaps my point is being missed, here. I'm not upset that it's fake jewelry, persay - as I said in the original post, I wear costume jewelry all the time. I just have an issue with wearing inauthentic jewelry with "tiffany&co" on it... same as I would feel walking around with a fake Kate spade, gucci, coach, etc bag. My issue here is the deception on his part. If he had simply said, "honey, look, I found these Tiffany pieces on eBay! They're not real but look how authentic they look!" I would have explained my position on wearing the fake items while letting him know that I still appreciate the sentiment of that - or any gift - he has given me.
    @ aussie: I'm not with him for his wealth, as we both generate similar incomes. I am an NP in trauma while he is a PA in trauma.
    Again, it's the blatent deception that saddened me.
    I do appreciate the feedback so far, so thanks, guys.

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    it's the thought that counts.... one of my most cherished gifts from my bf is a dinky teddy he won at a carnival and cost no more then ten bucks. but we had a really good night and laughed alot. you are putting way to much importance on price and brands.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    well he has been with you for two years so he must know the kind of person you are and by the sounds of it, you are pretty materialistic. he obviously thinks that you are just with him for his money so he doesnt want to spend any on you but he doesnt want to break up with you so he lies to you. you are both in the wrong and shouldnt be together.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    I voted yes that it is normal to be upset by this. It is not normal for him to do that.... No way!!!! This is not good and on top of it he lied to you!!!!! That is wrong. You have every right to be upset it doesn't mean that you are stuck up or anything

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