Is it normal to be uncomfortable with sex talk?

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My friends are lovely, and I'm lucky to have them. They've become like surrogate family to me; I've grown very comfortable around them. And the feeling, apparently, is mutual, because they don't seem to consider there to be any conversational boundaries between us, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

That said, recently they all had a very detailed, in-depth discussion about one of their mutual interests (which I don't share) in sex. Everything from toys, to techniques, to the finer points of anal sex, and I found myself feeling very uncomfortable. Not ten minutes earlier we were talking about how to paint the new apartment. I had a knot in my stomach, but I sat through it and ignored it, because they're my friends, and I'd be very sad if I were to somehow make them uncomfortable.

I consider myself very liberal, open-minded, and even sex-positive, but these kinds of discussions just rattle me for some reason, and I don't know why. Am I a prude? Am I repressed? I don't feel that way and I dont wan't to be that way, but I'm sure that's how most people would see it. I'm just more a cuddling kind of person, and sometimes I feel less than human for it...

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    CUDDLERS UNITE!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Subfinmatic
    11 years ago

    That sounds like a delicious conversation.
    But I agree what Captain_Kegstand said.

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  • Mason334
    11 years ago

    That would make me wonder

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    It's normal, you most likely grew up in a household where sex talk was not a common thing? There is nothing wrong with your friends discussing this, and over time you will feel more comfortable about it as well, don't worry so much!

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    • Infxmous
      11 years ago

      You always have thoughtful replies :)

      Me and my best friend woul talk about everything an sex too. But we treated it like we were in grade 5 learning about sex for the first time and just laughing at everything... It somehow took a lot of the tension off. I know that doesnt really help you but i thought id share. If theyre good friends i think the best bet is just ignoring it because it would be foolish to let such a small thing cover up all the good qualities. I think the way you feel is normal, but i think it wpuld be wise to just let it slide :)

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        Thank you! I do try to be as honest and thoughtful as possible.

        Humor can actually be one of the best ways to defuse an awkward situation, such as sex, and make it easier to talk about. Sounds like you and your friends found quite an effective way to deal with it!

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  • Pisslan616
    11 years ago

    I'm a 19 and still a virgin. When my friends talk about sex I don't have a clue what to say. Just sit there in silence until the topic of conversation turns onto something I can actually relate to.

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