Is it normal to be uncomfortable around my stepdad ?

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First of all, I have never been sexually harassed or molested but I have this really weird feeling when I am around him sometimes.
I was raised by him and he has done nothing suspicious or weird. When I was a kid I was always around him and I felt no weird feelings until I turned 10 but it was just a really weird feeling of not wanting to be around him or even hug him because I felt uncomfortable being around him. I grew up always giving him hugs and was doing okay till when I turned 10. It went away after that till I got older and it would only come once in a while where I felt really uncomfortable around him. Currently now, I feel really uncomfortable around him now that I am older and it’s weird, because people can see that I look uncomfortable and give these weird expressions like I’m being creeped out or an expression of disgust… they ask me what’s going on and even my Stepdad would ask and I just say nothing because I don’t know what to say about how uncomfortable I feel. It’s not only my Stepdad I am uncomfortable with, but even with my Biological Dad, my Grandpa sometimes, and my Uncles or any Male older guy like my Dentist, or anyone that could be an Older Man. I don’t know why I feel like this when I have never been sexually harassed or abused or even raped, or molested or Sexually harassed by words.

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  • Tinybird
    1 year ago

    Not normal but I feel the same way about older men, except for my family. And I have never had any sexual experience in my whole life ever.

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  • jethro
    1 year ago

    Most thirteen year old children feel that way. It will go away once you get through puberty.

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    • goosebumps_99
      1 year ago

      But I’m not 13… I’m 18 actually.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    1 year ago

    i cant help thinkin from his perspective

    he raised you and contributed without question acted decently towards you and now you got some vague feelins so now hes suddenly an asshole?

    it dont say much about you except that you got so little to worry about in life that you gotta make shit up

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    • goosebumps_99
      1 year ago

      I’m not making him seems like the bad guy… I’m just asking if it’s normal to feel uncomfortable around him, and other male family members and some stranger men as well.
      He has done nothing wrong … and let me tell you a fact that I love my Stepdad so much and I am even the second closest person to him, and I don’t even call him Stepdad but The real Dad word, but there are times I feel really uncomfortable around him or sometimes any older male guy in general. This feeling only comes once in a while… ever since that feeling started when I was 10, did you read? Now bc currently I am feeling that way again… I am wondering if it is normal bc in fact I don’t like this feeling or want to keep feeling like this. Also bc I hate it when people ask me what is wrong… and I say nothing bc I know it is just something wrong with me but I can’t stop whatever I am feeling and it just happens and that’s why I am asking the question.
      Honestly, I think you’re right… I shouldn’t be worrying about anything and maybe I think I’m just not thinking right.

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  • bigbudchonger
    1 year ago

    Do you get intrusive thoughts about it? I know this is arm chair psychiatry, but you might have intrusive thought OCD, and unfortunataley these are where your thoughts land

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    • goosebumps_99
      1 year ago

      How does Intrusive thoughts OCD relate to this? Can you explain?

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      • bigbudchonger
        1 year ago

        You focus on certain situations or instances that can arise in thought. So maybe OP, if she is having it with multiple family members, may find that this is a recurring irrational thought. OCD is quite complicated. There are far more types of it than just not walking on the cracks or whatever.

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      • bigbudchonger
        1 year ago

        Are you, OP? Because whatever this is it is mental illness. I would really search out help for it if yo uhave free/ affordable healthcare. It's got to be grim for yo uand your family members.

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        • goosebumps_99
          1 year ago

          I don’t even know what OP stands for or what it could mean… but you explaining it sorta gives me an idea. I would take your advice, but I think reaching out to mental healthcare professionals, is kinda unnecessary… and maybe I’m just overthinking things. Besides I don’t think it’s that bad, I just wanted to know if I was normal feeling this way. But thanks for sharing!

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          • bigbudchonger
            1 year ago

            OP means original poster. Ye I get you, hope it goes well for you and happy to share

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