Is it normal to be unable to communicate with narrow minded people?

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There is people who do not grasp simple concepts. When you try to explain to them the simple concept they A.Get bored and say you talk too much B.Get angry and call you an idiot.

Communication is very important and sometimes you have to deal with these people on daily bases. It could be over something as simple as you saying "I don't cry at sad movies" and them asking why you don't. When you tell them they either get bored and say you talk too much or get angry and call you an idiot.

Yet they are simply incapable of understanding that different people have different feelings and reactions. However this person creating a conflict will make you look very bad and if you have to calm down a person like this its very difficult. How do you handles these type of situations?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    They are "stupid" and they "know" it?

    ummm.... Most people believe that they are more intelligent than the people around them... And you seem to be no exception to this.

    You wrote your post (diction and grammar) as if you're trying hard to make it seem like you're smart. Yet, your post is riddled with errors that betray the truth of your ability. It makes you seem a bit silly.

    It is normal to *occasionally* come across someone who is an absolute challenge to effectively communicate with. However, if you find this is the norm for you, then it's you who needs to adjust.

    I realize that you are asking us for advice on how to communicate with people---or what you call "idiots." I think the first step in doing that is to change your condescending attitude to a more positive one. Google the rest... There is a plethora of information out there about how to effectively communicate with people in any given situation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I did not once say anything about my intelligence.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Your opening line...
        "There is people who do not grasp simple concepts."

        That is the sentence which makes it seem as though you think you're more intelligent than other people. It's a condescending point of view that is used--almost to the point of cliche--by individuals who feel intellectually superior to others.

        But... If I misunderstood how you feel, then I am sorry.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Yes as in you can say something simple like "I do not like snakes" and someone might ask you to elaborate but after reply with "Well you talk too much stop talking".

          How do you deal with that? If you make a simple statement its meant to sum up everything very quickly, if you ask for detail you get something more complicated.

          So if they do not want the simple answer and do not want the complicated answer how do you communicate with this type of person?

          I meant simple concepts as in someone making a simple statement they will not understand but when they ask you to go into detail they say you talk too much.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Well, just because someone asks you to elaborate on what you've told them, it doesn't mean they want excessive detail.

            What I like to do when talking to people in real-life, is to practice a bit of empathetic-thinking, picking up on cues about the person's conversational style and what they might be interested in talking about. Having good conversation skills isn't about knowing how to talk, its about *listening* and understanding people. It's really not that hard if you spend a bit of time researching human behaviour and what motivates people. Some people do come by these skills naturally, but others have to work for it. You might be one of those who has to work at it.

            So, instead of solely thinking about what you are getting from the conversation, think about what the other person wants and needs from it too. No matter how different the person is from you, try not to see them as the "stupid" enemy. Once you start labelling others in a negative way, you stop understanding them.

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  • funkedup
    10 years ago

    If this is happening with one or two people, I'd suggest simply avoiding long discussions with them and keeping the interaction extremely light and polite. Trying to change someone's perspective will take up far too much of your time and drive you nuts in the process.

    If this happens with everybody, then your communication style is likely the problem.

    Your original post has a few glaring grammatical errors, does not have a good "flow," and comes across as a bit judgmental, so I agree with prior comments that this is a pretty ironic post considering your complaints...

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  • macaroniheyo
    10 years ago

    Sorry, but this doesn't necessarily mean you're smarter than these people. You might just take too long to explain things, or you babble a lot, or maybe you give boring answers(in their mind.) When asked a simple question, some people want a simple answer. This might not be the case, but don't automatically assume the fault lies in them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Do what you can to avoid interactions with all inferior specimens to begin with. I think you'll thank yourself for it, trust me.

    By the way, work on your language skills. As of now they are simply.....ironic.

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    • 140240
      10 years ago

      Given that no two people are absolutely equivalent and that, in any measure, one of them has to be deemed inferior, following your rule would mean that no human beings would ever interact.

      Which may perhaps be a good thing. I haven't thought the second part through yet.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      What if you work in a job where you have to deal with people that make an issue like this? Also what do I need to correct in this post?

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Hehe, my mother can very much relate. Like her, I think you just need a new job.

        I was referring to the irony of the original title of this entry; you express your frustration with stupidity while using such lines as "There is people".....

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      • EccentricWeird
        10 years ago

        HOW DO YOU HANDLES SITUATION LIKE DIS?!

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  • JohnTrollinski
    10 years ago

    The first three words just completely voided your argument

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  • tigressdawn
    10 years ago

    With lots of patience and small words.

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  • Kaitlin
    10 years ago

    Mostly people shut down others because of their own insecurities and I don't doubt this is true in your case. However this post is extremely interesting in that you have provoked the same reaction from completely anonymous people. Maybe there is something in the way that you present yourself and communicate with others that bothers people. Do not take this to necessarily mean it is something wrong with you. I could equally mean that there is something about you that challenges others and it is up to them to rectify this.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      So if you already know how to deal with yours how do you deal with theirs?

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  • robbieforgotpw
    9 years ago

    I powermanured my drawers

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  • dickwashington
    10 years ago

    i dont i kinda feel like im one of the people your talking about but instead of insulting anyone i just dont really pay attention

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  • halfemptyhalffull
    10 years ago

    anyone who says they "get bored" or get angry or says you talk too much thinks YOU are smart (smarter then they are) and they don't like that...
    If you have to work with them just say "I don't know"
    Throw in a "you're right" and you'll be besties in no time

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Really? So they react that way since they a stupid and they know it?

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      • halfemptyhalffull
        10 years ago

        Its not that they consider themselves stupid, it is that they think the other is smarter. Another factor could be that their ego needs them to be the constant focus. By cutting you off when you speak/getting bored/cutting your views down, in their eyes, the "focus" returns to them and they establish their dominance. In their eyes, this makes them appear "smarter"
        Which is why I suggest "giving them what they want"
        Tell them they are right, you are wrong.
        They won't feel threatened anymore and will back off and probably pick on someone else

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