Is it normal to be treated like this
I'm a 21 yr old female and the oldest of three kids. I am currently studying full time to get a diploma in animal care and management.
I feel that no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough for my family. My dad in particularly always calls me a loser, I don't se why because if I wasn't studying I had a job and vise versa. Even when I was both working and studying I was still called a loser, I don't see why because neither of my parents finished highschool and really made anything of themselves.
I was upset because I had recently had a job interview for a job I really wanted but didn't end up getting it. That was my mums excuse to start comparing me to my younger sister, who is doing a harder course than me AND works on the weekend.
When ever I come home from uni or from my boyfriends and say hi to everyone at home I'm greeted with grunts and glares. When my sister comes home for the weekend from her student housing everyone warmly greets her home, even I greet her and she usually just glares at me and mumbles hi to me.
The family has a running thing that whenever I have something to say I get told to shut up.
Everyone talks down to me like I'm the family idiot. Whenever I try to talk to my mum she just grumbles and turns her attention to something else.
Before I had my boyfriend my parents kept telling me to wear more dresses and me more feminine or else no man will ever want me. I've got a boyfriend now, and they keep telling me to lose weight and stop tying my hair back or else he'll leave me for someone better looking. I love the way I look, I'm not fat, but I do have somewhat of a fuller figure (my boyfriend also loves the way I look), but they tell me I'm overweight. And I only tie my hair back because if I don't then I'm constantly pulling my hair out, I was diagnosed with trichotillomania five years ago.
Lastly, it's no secret that my little brother is the favourite. He's a spoilt brat, they got him whatever he wanted all his life and now question his attitude problem.
They sacrifice so much to give him soccer lessons and believe that he will be a professional soccer player when he grows up. This involves spending hundreds of dollars for a specialist school, thousands of dollars to have an ex professional soccer player as his coach (and hundreds of dollars every few months to keep that coach) and then $50 a week for extra keeper training.
It's a great dream, but highly improbable. My dream is to be a show dog breeder/trainer.
As childish as this sounds, I was promised my FIRST dog on my 21st birthday. A week before my birthday they informed me that it wasn't happening. There's no reason to it, I even now want to buy the dog and pay for everything it needs with my own money but they just won't let me. So what I'm saying is they make big sacrifices to support my brothers improbable dream but won't make a small sacrifice to support my possible one.
Sorry if this is too long, but I want to know if this is normal to single a member of the household out like this?