Is it normal to be totally ignored whenever you talk?

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I'm a freshman in college and moved in like 4 days ago. In the beginning, people would listen to what I had to say and laugh at my funny comments. All of a sudden, people are just ignoring me now. It feels terrible. For example, today I said a funny comment about something. No one reacted or even looked in my direction. Then this other guy said the exact same thing and everyone laughed! Why is this? I will say I have social anxiety and I get nervous to talk. Maybe it shows in my body language and voice tone. I've been trying talk to more people to get past it. It just feels terrible to be shunned like this. No one else is being ignored like I am, even the kids who don't say anything!!! Anyway, is this normal, why are people ignoring me now, and what can I do?

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  • Gentil
    10 years ago

    This kind of situation usually happens because of:
    A) You've become the class clown, and by the constant use of "funny" comments or jokes, you have lost your classmates' respect, and thus leading to the "not paying attention" state of them on what you're talking.

    B) Maybe they think you are boring, or that the way you speak and communicate (voice tone, gestures) is tiresome, or at least, has become that way.

    I got one case like that in my class, but instead of ignoring him, people just say "Okay, bro", but still with respect, just to make fun of him.

    I sugest that you keep your comments to yourself, unless it's incredibly funny or pertinent to the subject, and when you get some friends, start loosing yourself with them, and advance through that situation. Cheers.

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  • eternalsmoke31
    10 years ago

    Stop trying to fit in and be funny. Nobody respects a clown.

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  • gummy_jr
    10 years ago

    I was too bust killing a grasshopper to read this

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  • JoMama123451234
    10 years ago

    No. I have social anxiety and I usually hold back from talking, however, I've been trying to talk more to people to overcome this problem. And actually since I posted this, they have stopped ignoring me as much. I think what happens is I make things awkward sometimes due to my anxiety so they are afraid to talk to me because of that. The other times, I'm not anxious so I'm able to be cool, funny, charming... I think that's where I'm at as of now. It may change as my level of anxiety changes.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    Maybe you should try to make friend with one or two people and not concentrate on groups. It's always difficult to enter a group. Anyway in some years all this would be unimportant.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I am sorry what did you say?

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  • Bradscool123
    10 years ago

    I know happens to me to

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    Sometimes it's just that a person slurs their words, and people get tired of asking what you said. Other times a group has some sort of social rule that you have broken, and they will punish you for it. It doesn't have to last though. Try to sit back and watch what's going on to learn their rules. Then decide if it's a group you want to continue socializing with. Do seek out activities you like so you have multiple social groups to mix with. College friends can be a valuable asset.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    You must be imagining it. I thought your post quite funny and can't stop laughing.

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