Is it normal to be this upset/jealous???

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ive been with my boyfriend for about three years now. things are okay for the most part but I get so jealous so easily! I feel like he's interested more in his friends then me and I feel terrible! ever since his little brother past away he says he enjoys hangin out with guys even more now. ugh it sounds gay to me. but I understand. at the same time Im sad. I wish he could spend that kind of time with me too. and I feel like he sees his friends all the time too since they live in the same small town while Im ten miles away. don't get me wrong Im glad he spends time with his friends. what gets me down is when it seems like he'd rather spend his time with them than me. and I feel selfish too, so no one needs to tell me that I am. I already know.

has anyone else felt that their significant other is more interested in their friends?

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  • jaimeson123
    12 years ago

    my bf and i have been dating for three years. his friends are not the greatest crowd. (got him into weed, cigarettes, and some more... ) but there iss nothing i can do about it. he gets mad when i bring it up because he feels "its my life i will be friends with who i want"... which i understand. but he spends so much time with them and barely any with me anymore. i get so jealous :( but i love him so much. i just want to spend time with him :( but anytime he gets is immediately put towards his friends, and then me.

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago

    I can't say that I've ever experienced that sort of jealousy, but I've known people who have, and my observation has always been that those people are more insecure than others. The insecurity came from different sources, but it was always the common denominator amongst those people who were experiencing this kind of jealousy.

    If he prefers to spend time with his friends over spending time with you, then there is not really a whole lot you can do about it: you cannot control other people, even if you are in a relationship with them. Your only positive strategy would be to make his time with you a pleasant as possible so that he'll want to continue spending time with you in the future. If he didn't like being with you, he probably wouldn't continue to be in a relationship with you: Knowing that should give you all of the confidence in your relationship that you need.

    Respect his need to be social, it's not necessarily a reflection on you - to think that it is, is just a little self-absorbed.

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  • unknown420
    13 years ago

    I definatly have!! I've been with my guy almost 4 years and hespends 90% of his free time with his friends. I like hisfriends too but sometimes I want alone time with him and his friends are here EVERY damn day

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