Is it normal to be this obsessed with my boyfriend

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So I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years no and when we first started dating our relationship was amazing he would tlk to me all the time always surprise me with things he sent flowers to my work and would surprise me with flowers at school and I ended up breaking up with him about a month after because I wasn't use to all this but we ended up getting back together and he was still like that for a bit but then he changed now it's me doing everything because he says that's not him anymore but it's just the little things I feel like that just show someone you care. I always do things for him and take him to do things he likes to do but he doesn't for me and sometimes he even complains if I ask to go do something. He just doesn't do those little things anymore so I feel like he doesn't care and isk what to do. I also freak out if he is mad at me because he just ignores me and I do t see how that is so easy to do because I can't just ignore him.i also freak out when he hangs out with his friends and I just don't know what to do can someone please help

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Sorry to tell you this but as the relationship is fading for him, he is going off you and doesn't feel it's worth his while making tthe effort for you any more :o(

    Stay back a little and try to make him miss you a little so he can appreciate what he might lose. Otherwise he will lose all patience if you are clingy and dump you.

    If I were you I'd start looking around for a new guy, so it doesn't come as too much of a shock to you when it ends.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you broke him when you broke up with him. He's emotionally cut of. My boyfriend was over whelming when I first met him to, but we somehow made it through that stage. (Somehow! lol) He also ignores me when he's mad -.- I just take the understanding approach and say stuff like "I'm here if you need to talk." Not really sure what to do there, mayeb a huge appology?

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    • Ash18
      12 years ago

      I have tried because we have had a talk about all that before and I tell him I'm sorry and he now just says that that not him that he will never go back to that and he does tell me that I changed him when I broke up with him I just wish I could go back

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      • ccjigsaw
        12 years ago

        Not meaning to turn this all negative on you or anything, but if he's shutting you out it could be to late. My ex did this to me, it's usually what happens near the ending stage of a realtionship. The more you push for it to get better, the more to him you are a nuisance. Only hope for recovery at this point is to distance yourself and see if he notices and bites back. It's no longer in your hands, it's in his. He needs to take the initiative to make the realtionship work, it he doesn't.. yah.

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  • GothamCityDiva
    12 years ago

    Sounds like the same thing that happened with my boyfriend. When we first got together he fell hard. Treated me extremely well and kind, but I took it for granted and treated him like he was soft.

    He was the unicorn boyfriend. The type you see in movies where the guy is so sweet, faithful, caring and sincere but you never meet in real life because a good portion men turn out to be jerks. I was used to that and didn't feel that into him because he wasn't a challenge so I would break up with him and play with his emotions.

    Still he stuck around and right when I realized what I had he changed. He became harder, less willingly to show me his emotional side and seemed less attached.

    We spoke about it and he said it was because of the rejection he delt with in the beginning that made him that way. He said he developed this wall to protect himself from getting hurt.

    Over time it slowly went back to the way things were but I had to fight for it. The roles kind of switched where I was the more attentive one and acted more in love. Then after I gained his trust back and he knew I would not hurt him again we became the happiest we ever been.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    I know who wrote this, I've read your other posts and I recognize your way of typing. I'm getting good at recognizing people lol

    Anyway, maybe you two are growing apart. Sorry but it happens. You'll find someone else.

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  • Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat
    12 years ago

    Start having sex with his friends, that will bring him back into your clutches.

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  • Track
    12 years ago

    He was obviously only ACTING like a decent guy before and you are just not a good judge of character.

    Would someone who IS decent want to be with someone who isn't a good judge of character? I don't know, but you can't stay with this guy.

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