Is it normal to be this insecure about my looks

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I could be blowing how I see myself out of proportion but I feel ugly compared to everyone. I spend alot of time in the mirror, just observing how I look. There are maybe 2 or 3 days out of every 2 weeks that I feel attractive. I've been told by many people that I'm cute but I don't see it. I dress well, and I'm a perfection with getting ready to leave the house but when I get outside I feel so disgusting. I feel so disgusting that I wash my face when I get back home, or I'll take a shower. When I feel ugly, I feel dirty and icky. When I see attractive people I often wish I looked like them. I workout 2 hours, daily but I still feel fat. My weight has been up and down because of my insecurities. I've been from 200 pounds to 140 pounds so many times. Most of my thoughts during my day is my weight, image, and how others look compared to me. There's people who normal people wouldn't see as attractive but I still think I'm unattractive compared to them. I'm a 21 year old guy, and I just feel like I'll be alone for the rest of my life because of it. I'm very irritable towards girls because of my feelings of not ever being with anyone. I'm a virgin, probably a super virgin. I never kissed, felt, or hugged in an intimate way before.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think you have an obsessive problem
    On your hands. I would suggest getting
    A life coach or working on your confidence.
    You shouldn't worry about looks so much
    Everyone gets old anyway and all we have
    Left is our personality.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I love the fact that you type like this. I feel like instead of you posting a normal answer, you're posting a story/poem that has the answer to the story/poll hidden in it.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You honestly spend too long worrying about this. Life is far too short to be this obsessive, you should be out enjoying yourself.

    As a female, I put on make-up to go out and never even check it once on a night out - only coz I forget what I look like when I'm having a good time. It really doesn't matter what you or I look like, as long as we are good company!

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  • whateverlove
    12 years ago

    Maybe you should talk to a psychologist about it because you really don't need to feel that way :(

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    im sorry u feel that way (hugs) itll get better once u relize that ur good looking to somevand not others u cant please everyone cuz they all like different things.... u need to find someone that loves u for u that loves ur heart and mind as much as the outside... i had the same problem not as bad though... and im trying to loose weight and keep my fiance happy in everyway... he says im sexy but i just dont feel it really i wana feel like im worthy of a mans touch... so im working on lossing weight and moving out of my grandmothers house!.... wish the best for u hugs

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    Victim of society

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I felt like as if I partly wrote this story. I know how you feel man. Whenever I got my hair done and it looked terrible, I used to cry endlessly because I was so worried about what others think. People in my school make fun of you cold heatedly when you're hair looks bad. I've definitely gotten better but I think it could still use a bit of work. I'm not that extreme though and I've never been in a relationship so far but I'm still really young.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    That is not normal. I think that you need to spend less time looking in the mirror and more time working on what you want to change. Set some goals (with deadlines) as to how you would ideally look and go for it! A lot of your look problems can be solved by taking care to change it. For men clothes and hairstyle can make or break a guy. Also tone up a bit and keep the weight down. Most of all be confident!

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