Is it normal to be this in love with a woman 10 years older than me?

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I'm an 18 year old young man who is hopelessly in love with an older woman who is 28. I've always tended to hang out with the older crowd and we met through mutual friends. I have been in love with her since I was 15 and she was 25. Now that I am 18 I can pursue a relationship with her and to my surprise she is with it.
It's been a few months since we've started to hang out romantically and we have connected on so many levels. She is charming , funny, we can hold a conversation for hours, she's unbelievably sexy, smart, college educated, independent, has a job, her own place, no kids, never been married, my friends love her and I'm sure my family will too. I have shared very personal things about myself with her and my childhood and she has never judged me. She's everything I could ever want and when I'm with her nothing else matters. She is truly my best friend. She has taught me so many things sexually that I feel if I was with anyone else they would always be compared to her.
Right now I'm living with my parents, about to finnish school and I want to move in with her, eventually get married and I sometimes picture her having my kids one day. The only issue is the age difference. Even though she is 28, which in my opinion is not that old, we are still 10 years apart and I know that it is a issue for her. She tells me I may not want the same things 5 years from now and that there is no need to rush things between us. She is very hesitant about seriously committing to me and to us. She may be right, but what I feel right now is so real. I feel this is true love and we are meant to be together. She says that she feels the same but isn't sure it will last in the long run because we are at different areas of our lives. How do I get her to understand that our age doesn't matter and that it can work if we try, or do you agree that maybe I'm wasting my time and it may never work being that we are so far apart in age. Can a relationship with an older woman work? Do you think people will judge us or is our love normal?

Thanks for the advice.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    I think this has a better chance of working in the long run if you were say, 25 and her 35. I think you are still on the cusp of adulthood, growing into yourself post puberty. There are going to be things you want to do that require independence and personal freedom. Your early 20's is a vital time to live a liberated youthful life and to explore your freedoms, values and goals. Once you're 25 you will be better suited to really commit to something long term and know that its not just hormonal melodramatic love, young fleeting lust mistaken for love. I'm sorry but I'm going to have to agree with your lady friend on this one, I can see where she is coming from.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thank you for the advice. I just really love her and have never felt this strongly about any girl before and I've had many girlfriends. Couldn't there be a slight possibility that she's the one?

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    28's to young, go for 40 somethings bro...that's were it's at.

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  • youareaghost
    10 years ago

    Uh. It's strange. 18 year olds look like babies to 28 year olds.

    Your 18. You don't know what you want. You don't know where your life is going. You can object, but she knows the truth too.

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  • potatisen
    8 years ago

    Are you still together? as a person who's in a similar situation it'd be interesting to know.

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    I would say if both of you were 10 years older, go for it 100 percent. You are 18 though, I would just make sure to explore options, meaning what you want, not necessarily playing the field just to do it, and appreciate the love that you have. If it's meant to be, it will be. Congratulations on finding someone you love, and not letting A larger than (perceived) "normal" age gap, or other peoples opinions get in the way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Fuck her and dump her. Why would you want to waste your time with an old rag? But don't forget to use protection. The old witch might pull the paternity fraud on your sorry ass.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      She doesn't want kids anytime soon. And she's in her 20's. That's not old.

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