Is it normal to be this confused about my own sexuality?

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I am a female, and up until recently, I thought I was straight, but I have been struggling with my sexuality a lot lately. For a while, I thought I was asexual, since I wasn't attracted to anyone whatsoever, and I didn't even like the idea of sex. Then I found that I just had a strange fetish. The problem was, I still had no interest in sex. I decided that since I wasn't interested in sex, I didn't really care about the gender of whoever I had a relationship with. So I guess that makes me bi? But that isn't even the end of it, I've also wanted to be a guy for quite some time now. I am not like most transgendered people, who feel like they have been trapped in the wrong body, I just really WANT to be a man. I would love to be the guy who all the girls want. But I love my boyfriend. We got together almost five years ago, back when I still thought I was straight. I am not interested in any other guys or girls I know, I only want him, but I kind of treat him like the "girl" in our relationship. I would love for us to be a guy/guy couple. But he doesn't know any of this, he is straight.
I must have the most complicated sexuality of anyone on the planet. I am so confused. Is there anyone like me? Am I normal?

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    11 years ago

    I think any question to do with sexuality is usually normal( unless your attracted to something like animals or piers morgan) because being straight, being gay and being bisexual is all normal.

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  • Mecki
    11 years ago

    I'm like that too, almost exactly. I guess the very technical term is Panromantic demisexual autoandrophiliac..? but it's much easier to say, confused :(

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  • nelly1472
    7 years ago

    feelings are confusing.... go with what you want when you want it and try not to think too much

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  • ParanoidPhantom
    11 years ago

    I usually consider it art, but there are a few exceptions.
    One, is when someone does it to another peice of art. Messing up someone else's statue or something isn't cool.
    The second, is if they did something stupid, like drew a penis on something. That isn't art, that's just immature.
    But the examples you are talking about are art. No doubt about it.
    It becomes art when there is thought and effort put into it. It doesn't necessarily need to mean something deep, it just has to have some kind of feeling in it. Even if it's just meant to be fun, that's something to me.

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  • DavidS.
    11 years ago

    kingof carrotflowers is right...

    However, I think you are confused...in that you are confusing two different things that may somewhat go together but are not related...sexual desire and sexual attraction are
    linked on most people but are not the same thing...

    sexual desire is horniness...it can be strengthened around certain people definitely but when i am hprny I want to fuck practically every girl around and sometimes evn fem or emo guys sexual attraction is a morE lasting thing...there are some people that when i am not horny i really have no inetrest in....but evn on those days that my sex drive is not strong i still feel feelings for certain people..it is a more lasting feeling..and rides through the ups and downs of sexual desirE....you do seem to be bi with abvery strong attraction to girls...but with sex drive...

    this is just me talking but your test to estrogen ratio is probably too balanced...we need one or the other to be higher...you probably have more test than most women but not enough ....

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