Is it normal to be this angry over small things?

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Hi, I'm 19 going on 20 and I feel like this flame of anger is always inside of me. I always had control as growing up because no one ever listened to me. I decided to be quiet and now that I'm older, I decided to take a stand and be who I am.

Thanks to my boyfriend's help, I feel like I can move on but I still am so angry. Over small things usually. It never was like this and no matter what I try, I feel like the only escape is if I talk about it. I hate that because my boyfriend ends up spacing off in the end and doing something else. I talk to my mom but she just stands there and it makes her "feel bad" and now I have to. She has depression and me having these feelings will help it even more...great.

If I'm to be honest and I hope I don't get judged for this, I love being angry. It feels good. So good. I don't want to be at all; yet, people love to push my buttons. I know, "Don't let people get to you." I'm sorry but that advice doesn't work on me. I have tried and the only way I can cope is to just mold this anger into a happy smile.

I don't want to hide it sometimes. Sometimes I want people to suffer and see how much they hurt me. Never has this urge came into my life until now. This anger sticks around and then people get scared. No I'm not violent, I don't yell at people, or even threaten them. Most of the time it is super rare when I even speak out my feelings. Truth is, I have to wait for someone to ask me or else if I speak up and try to confess....no one listens. My boyfriend doesn't really anyway.

I know no one means to do it. I do. Sure my boyfriend and mom try to help by letting me vent and listening, but for some reason I feel like none of it is enough. I want to shout in their faces about how they hurt me or how they boss me around and even don't consider my feelings.

I can't decide about how I should even approach myself. I hold a lot of anger and holding it in to spare my family and boyfriend's feelings is even harder. I hate being treated like a child. I'm so lost and angry... I just wish someone would just...acknowledge me trying and ask, "Hey, did you want to vent?" or say "Hey, you do a lot for me. How about I do this for you."

Nothing is good enough for me lately because all I am is angry.... what should I do?

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  • maddoxyay
    8 years ago

    thats a type of depression, always being angry or upset. You should probably stop that cuz thats what people call a bitch. if you love hurting peoples feelings, then yeah you are a bitch. no one likes a bitch. my sister is like that, you should probably just go take some happy medicine cuz that shit is selfish enough. Your moms depression ain't getting better if all you do is think of yourself and how the world angers you, youre suppose to support her, not be angry. and she should support you when youre sad or upset. But being angry? what do you want done about that? "Hey! Yell AT ME FOR YOUR OWN SAKE!" just doesnt sound right to me. Venting is healthy SOMETIMES, not all the time

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  • amezng
    8 years ago

    Usually people who get angry over little things just lack love inside, so you're probably like them. Love is all you need.

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    I don't really know what to suggest it sucks to feel bad and even more when it never leaves. I get my relief from working out or sometimes a good performance at work. I ride an emotional rollercoaster but sometimes I think the happy side is just something I learned to do so I could fit what people wanted or expected. If you have something that makes you feel good try doing that when your mad. Or if you like physical stuff maybe go to a martial art place and give it a try.

    I'm having such a hard time not rambling today I know no one want to hear every thought that passes through my head but I have tried many things and some work and some don't and you just have to figure out what it is.

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  • KingRabbit
    8 years ago

    Yawn...

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I suggest you get professional help: Anger Management would be a good start and as soon as possible

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  • yu-gi-ohChampion25
    8 years ago

    just relax

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