Is it normal to be this angry?

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I have been through a lot these last few years, including the deaths of family members. I have a partner I love very much who says all the right things, but is unable to commit due to being emotionally dominated by his mother who knows exactly how to wind him up, find his weak points and exploit them. Outside of that relationship he is a strong person and genuinely loves me.

I get so frustrated and angry sometimes and my feelings are so strong, I just cry when I'm on my own and I don't know how to relieve my tension. But all the time there is hope I keep hanging on. I am aware that some feelings may well be due to bereavement.

Is my level of anger and frustration normal, do you have any ideas as to how I can 'calm down' and take pleasure in the little I do have?

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Based on 43 votes (39 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Mom is the source of tension hence mom needs to get the boot. What's the problem here? :P

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    • sprite
      12 years ago

      I wish!

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  • Bleach2476
    12 years ago

    Not to be harsh, but I think, for starters,that you should take great pleasure in "The little that you do have" such as your boyfriend/partner. From what I've read, he is a strong influence in your life, and he loves you and supports you. Try talking to him about your anger(if you haven't done that already). Hopefully he can find it in himself to help you feel better.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      That is a good point, but I am so worried about putting pressure on him, he needs me to be the relaxing part of his life, the bit he doesn't have to worry about or put too much effort into.

      I feel that if I express my feelings too strongly he will feel like I am making him choose between me and his mum and thats not a good thing to do.

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      • Bleach2476
        12 years ago

        Are you two married?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          Not yet, but we've been together a number of years

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          • Bleach2476
            12 years ago

            I suggest talking to a therapist about how to solve this dilemma.

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