Is it normal to be terrified to leave my mother?

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I'm almost done with college & I would love to move out one day. My mom is near 60 & she is divorced and has no companion. I'm basically ALL she has. On top of it all, she is ALWAYS sick & has mood swings & undiagnosed depression. She has tried to kill herself in the past when I had a BF & wanted to move out. He wasn't a good guy, so I know that was part of the problem. She is extremely overprotective & she is always whining telling me how I should live my life. She is a great mother though, she has been there for me through thick and thin. Idk what to do or even say. I have tried talking to her in the past but she gets very angry & acts childish & never EVER hears me out or lets me finish speaking. We tried seeing a psychiatrist in the past but that didn't help. Does anyone have any suggestions? :(

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  • Train.Wreck
    12 years ago

    I understand how you wouldn't want to leave her. Still, the bird has to fly out of the nest, sometime. Maybe you should spend time doing things with her, and slowly ease into the subject. Tell her clearly to let you finish talking, but reassure her often, as well. I don't know if it'll help, but I hope so. Maybe you saw a bad psychiatrist. Look for people who are in or used to be in your situation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I understand how you feel. I have a bond with my mother that's stronger than any other person, and the though of leaving her and going on my own after college scares me ridiculously. But it's something that everyone has to do. You can still see her often; you two don't have to be completely away from each other.

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