Is it normal to be terrified about the idea of marriage

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My story is kind of complicated, I don't know if this website is the right place to discuss it...

Anyways, here it is:

There is this guy who just proposed to me. He is a good guy and everybody in my family seem to like him and they even tried to impose him on me and even tried to make me feel guilty if I don't agree to marry him (No, I'm not Greek).

My major problem however, is that he never went to college and that he holds a very simple job as a handy man. While of the other hand I graduated from the top university in my country and currently hold a good position in a bank.

I personally feel it is very awkward to be more achieving as a lady in the relationship than the man !!!
I want someone to support me, I don’t want to be stuck with someone for a life time and call it a marriage...

I can't seem to find an excuse to turn him down since he is a fine man, everybody I know don't seem to care a lot about education and intellectual level , they say that what matters the most is that he love you.
Currently I'm truly terrified by the idea of marriage not to mention commitment. My hart says yes, yet my mind says no…
I don't know. I feel that I attract the wrong kind of people, given that the first guy to ever propose to me was my PERSONAL driver!!!

What Shall I do guys, is it normal to be scared from the idea of getting married. Is it normal to turn someone who loves you because he is not educated or not as achieving as you are??

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    One has to have accomplished more than the other. It's 2011...I'd get over it and be glad you broke through the glass ceiling.

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  • DeadByDesign
    10 years ago

    Forget your heart, listen to the absolute mind

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  • inthisboat88
    12 years ago

    I've never been proposed to, but I can understand where you're coming from. I think it all comes down to whether or not you really want to be with this man for the rest of your life, if you really know him enough to make that decision.

    Even if you do accept his proposal, that doesn't mean you have to get married right away. You could even ask him to wait awhile until you're ready.

    Does he have any dreams that he's working on? How long have you known each other. Can you picture having a family with him? These are some questions you should consider before making that commitment.

    If your main concern is his education and occupation, you could ask him to hold off until he's established his career.

    Marriage should mainly be about love, but there's a lot that comes with it, like running a household. You want to make sure you're financially ready for that.

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