Is it normal to be talking to my ex band teacher?

Is it wrong that I like my ex band teacher? He's 51 and he's married and has two children. I started liking him when I was in the 7th grade. We would flirt a lot I guess. He was so playful. He would have two spray bottles layin around and sometimes he would spray me. So I would run for the other one and we would have water fights. I would take cover behind the bigger cased instruments. And he was nicer to me than most of the other studentz. My friends told me that when I'm absent he would be mean and rude to everybody. One time I switched middle skools for a month and I herd he kicked a chair and was really angry. I never seen him explode before. In the 7th grade I told him I was going to start calling him batman and if he wanted he could call me batgirl. Sometimes he would and I would get the butterflys. In the 8th grade he sat in front of the chalk board and I drew ponytails on the back of him and told him he looked cute n he smiled. Then I told him the math helper said I had a weird laugh and my band teacher said he thinks its cute...I know this is inappropriate but I played with glue in his office and he took it from me and he asked if he can put some glue on the corner of my lip. Of coarse I said no. And he kept on insisting but I still said no..he seemed mad and went back to his computer. I felt so awkward. What do you think that ment? Anyways when I left middle school I would call his office phone to talk to him. I tell him my problems things that go on with my life. He's always been there for me. He gives me advice and comfort. But he told me he cant always talk at lunch and I said I'm sorry for bothering u I guess I should let u go and enjoy your lunch. But then He said, hey...can I have your number?I said sure! And I gave it to him and hung up. We only text about my problems or when I miss him and want to talk. When I go visit him he always stares at my eyes. Everytime I look at him he's looking me in the eyes. And now I text him way more often. I told him I had something to get of my chest. He txted wat is it? But I kept beating around the bush. An I said ill tell u when I vist you next time but then I couldnt say it. I didn't have the courage. So I tried calling him and he was like are you going to tell me? And I didn't...so I just txted him...batman I really like you. And he didn't txt back. So the next day I sent a txt saying if he didnt want to talk to me anymore Ill understand. Then he texted back saying that we need to talk. so I go visit him and we have our normal talk and then I asked him what did he wanted to talk to me about. He asked me what do I mean by I really like him? I said I find him very attractive. Then he told me that he was really flattered but that I was his former student and he tried to be a father figure to me. Then I said oh, I guess I looked disappointed because he said but if he was a 30 or 40 years younger he would. Then he said how can I put this? And i said, what without hurting me? He was like well yeah and I said I do get what you're trying to say an I have put some thought into it and then he said of course you probably have your smart... you're attractive and then He said when you're 40 years old and if you still feel the same way u should let me know and he made me laugh. Then I told him I did since seventh grade and it just happened out of the blue and that I didn't intend For it to happen. Then he told me that when he was Reading the first text message he almost flew back on his chair.he made me laugh again. Then when he toltd me when he read the last message about not wanting to talk anymore, he said he does wanna talk to me and he does like it when I come visit him and tell him about my day and my problems and how I'm doing. He says when he thinks about me that he cares about me an just wants and the best for me. Then he said I hope having this talk doesn't make You stop seeing me because I like to see you and hear about your day. And as I was saying bye to him I give him a full hug and then as I was turning around he said don't stop coming to see mee and I said don't worry I wont. But i really dont know where he wants to take this from or if he truely cares

Should I stop talking to him? 27
Does he want to take things serious? 13
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Comments ( 13 )
  • Hollolly

    When I first started reading I was starting to get creeped out. And I still kind of am, but the important thing, from what you have told, is that he never did actually touch you, maybe he tried to put some glue on your lip.. But he didnt actually sexuate you (if thats a word, lol) but yer does he like have children, cause maybe he just really likes kids.. Non pedo, and it is kinda normal that you like him, but depending on if you just really like him to spend time with him, not to have sex him..

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    • summerbudz

      Well yea at first i saw him as just a teacher. Then I started to be cool with him(non sexually) I cared about him. We had a lot in common like our music. We both like kiss, metallica, pink floyd, led zeppelin, twisted sister, Alanis Morissette, bad company. But like idk I told him one time I my grandparents are together for 40 yrs. But then he told me his wifes patents or grandparents were together for 70 yrs! I said wow that is a long Time. Then he said I know idk if I can do it that long. N I don't see him as a pedo just a friendly teacher. I still visit him.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Oh Dear God, if he is flirting with 7th graders, you really need to run like hell because this guy is a kiddy diddler.

    That aside, I'm sure he has warm feelings towards you but he's probably more of a Father figure to you if anything else. Some men like kids - in a non-sexual way - and what you are describing seems like a guy who cares for you and who is fun loving and good with kids and understands that due to his position he is going to garner some feelings in his more romantic-minded students.

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    • summerbudz

      Noo it was just me he flirted with. All my friends would say he had a thing for me, and that he always stares at me.
      Yea that's cool but I wasn't even a romantic type.I was a skater girl who lived in her own little world.
      It just happened. I dont even know how I started liking him.
      An I have a feeling he does too, I just get those vibes. And I have wars with myself on whether or not I should leave.

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  • scumfuck

    pedo

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Woah.

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    • q25t

      Is that a good or a bad whoa? Or just surprised?

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      • Terence_the_viking

        Surprised at the giant wall of text that i could not defeat.

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        • summerbudz

          Please read it for me? I really want advice and help. (:

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          • Terence_the_viking

            If you could make it more pleasing to the eyes i might but as it stands all i can say is KILL IT WITH FIRE.

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  • q25t

    He sounds more like a father figure to you. I wouldn't pursue anything more, especially as he's married with kids who are probably your age. I wouldn't stop talking to him, though. He sounds like a nice guy.

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    • summerbudz

      His kids are younger than me. Also I don't know if I want to keep talking to him if there is no future between us, because I really fell for this guy hard....and I dont know if I should end it now before I'm really heart broken.

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      • q25t

        If you really can't change how you feel for him, then leaving may be for the best.

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