Is it normal to be such an asshole?

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Until fairly recently I hadn’t thought there was anything major wrong with me or who I was.

But I breached my girlfriend’s trust by flirting, quite heavily, with someone else. I genuinely do not understand my own actions here.

It seemed that I was refusing to acknowledge what I was doing; I knew it was wrong, I just ignored the guilt.

Of course my girlfriend found out, and quite rightly pointed out to me, that I have serious psychological issues, I fail to see the larger picture, nor do I show any consideration for anyone else’s feelings. I know I care about her, I am completely in love with my girlfriend…at least I thought I was.

I know how I feel, but what I did is not something someone in love does. I am so confused by the way I feel.

I hate myself, with a passion, for hurting her; and I feel like I have a genuine mentality disorder.

I am lost in my own skin, I hurt people emotionally, I feel like I care but do stupid things like this.

I don’t know what to do, I feel like I never knew myself.

Is it normal?

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Based on 42 votes (25 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Everybody is an asshole once in a while.

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    • GHunter
      12 years ago | pl

      You haven't met my dad, FULL pledged asshole!

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago

    I wouldn't hang off her every word! Mental health issues is a serious accusation. I would look at what you were getting out of flirting ... Who was the girl, and how does she differ from your current gf? You may need to move on to a more suitable relationship. That is how it is looking to me. You sound hen pecked!!

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  • JackJ203
    11 years ago

    You no asshole

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago

    I don't think you sound like an asshole. You probably just like the attention. It sounds like you love your girl very much and had no intention of hurting her. Getting emotional about it clearly indicates to me that you have acknowledged it and are feeling guilty about enjoying the company of other women. But guilt is a useless emotion. Try to figure out why you kept going back for more. What did you want from these interactions? What weren't you getting from your girlfriend? This is very far from a major psychological issue, unless there is more to your story that you aren't telling. Sounds more like a growing pang.

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