Is it normal to be still in love with him?

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Well, I met my ex-boyfriend when we were in primary school, at the age of 9. As long as the years passsed, at puberty, I fell in love with him (I'm gay) and whe started to go out. It was great, like living a dream, but we didn't see each other very often because we went to different schools. Little by little we started to lose touch, he didn't log in very often and we couldn't see each other, he didn't call me and when he was online he didn't talk to me... What happened? One day I went to see him at his house and he acted like nothing had passed. After that he came to see me and I thought we were going out again but after that we haven't seen each other for months. What happened? I don't understand, I'm gay and he is the only one who knows, Dos he love me? Did he at any time love me? The days pass and I can't get him out of my head, what do I have to do? Because I have sent him emails, messages and I don't know what is going on, I always dreamed that he and I would be together forever. I'm still waiting for him, well I just want to forget him and have another boy who loves me but nobody knows I am gay. Is It normal to be still in love with him after almost a year?

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  • ellaisrad
    13 years ago

    So normal. But my advice is, don't chase him anymore. Let it be, because if it's meant to happen it will, and if he isn't contacting you back then it's gunna make you look a little nuts - no matter how much in love with him you are. Just carry on with life and see where it takes you, and if he comes back - great, if not.. don't worry, there'll be someone else out there. I was in a similar situation, and I have found a wonderful new girlfriend who I completely adore way more than I ever did the other person. Also, come out as gay, believe me I thought my parents would be weird when I came out as a lesbian but they didn't give a shit. If you need to talk or you need any advice I'd be happy to help, I know exactly how you feel.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    13 years ago

    Its normal to still have those feeling for him, especially cause your relationship was a unique one at that. I think that you should just let it go. Move on. It's not easy, trust me I am going through something similar. I know I have to move on. If he is not there I need to find someone else. I am sure that you can't keep it a secret forever. Why haven't you told anyone. There is a website called okcupid and its free to join and you might meet some other guys there if dating under the table is what you are looking for. You must move on, he already has. He is too busy for you and if he loved you then he would show and tell you. He is not worth your time, because worrying about it is not going to make him love you and he is a really big jerk for not wanting to return your calls. Its normal to still love him, you just have to move on though.

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  • Osakahoopline
    14 years ago

    Yeah don't worry, this is normal, although stating that it's normal doesn't always make it better...give it time, as cliche as that sounds, and you will feel better. I would also start coming out of your shell and just admit to people you're gay. Sometimes getting outside of your comfort zone will make you feel so much better than you realize, that way you can start to move on and meet other nice boys. It's a hard decision, but you don't want to look back on this and wish you would have made decisions sooner ya know? Good Luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    It's normal to always have feelings for your first love, even when you are married one day.
    Give it time and it will be easier.

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