Is it normal to be so scared of sex that you avoid relationships?

You don't have to have sex to be in a relationship. So firstly I would say stop worrying about talking to girls - flirting, kissing, dates etc do not make babies. You are under no obligation to have sex with someone who you had a flirty chat with in a coffee shop.

Also if you get into a serious relationship with someone who you really love then you will probably find that you worry about this less because you will trust her. You will have honest and open conversations about contraception and she won't pressure you into sex if you're still nervous because she will respect you.

Do you want kids eventually? If not then you could get a vasectomy. I can definitely understand your fear though and I'd say it's normal.

you dont have to have sex in relationships, stop being influenced by other people your age who are in relationships banging all day, every relationship can be different and doesnt need sexual intercourse to thrive

Just have a latchkey kid and ignore it while you live your life.

Same, had that fear ever since learning about pregnancy in sex ed (except from the other side, I'm female). It was pushed from a young age to be so shameful. I figured I'd just "save it for marriage" which is recommended for women anyway right, but in reality it's very hard to date someone who isn't eventually going to want to have sex, so I avoided that too. I have a pretty low sex drive as it is, so it never bothered me much.

You sound like your just looking for an excuse to me. Or are you being ignorant to the fact that you can enjoy sex without risking getting a girl pregnant? Ever heard of oral or anal sex? Don't you want to fondle some titties? Even vaginal sex with birth control and or condoms is quite safe, although there is always a small risk.

Yea I doubt that is the reason you are a virgin