Is it normal to be so scared about the consequences of sex?!

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Ok, serious question...! Mainly for females but open to males answering as well (from a male perspective, obviously, because you don't have ovaries). Anyway. is it normal to be so concerned about pregnancy as a consequence of sex? I mean when you're not meaning to conceive... I realise that is the general idea! So the situation is, you're thinking, ok, if things lead to sex tonight, that's fine, but... BUT... what if I get pregnant? Obviously there is a 'window of opportunity' and females aren't generally fertile for the whole month. Personally, I find myself avoiding the fertile window because I'm more likely to accidently get pregnant. Annoying because that's when sex drive is highest. In this situation, you are using protection (condom) but you're thinking... what if it splits? Or even gets a tiny hole in it... that's enough to let some sperm through. So is it normal to be this scared? Is this normal or is this paranoia? Please vote and comment, thank you. Also, personally, I would actually like to have a baby one day, but right now am not in the position and it wouldn't be fair on the baby/child. And I couldn't bring myself to have an abortion, I just know it.

Yes, it is. 3
Yes and I have the same thing. 5
Yes but not to point where you avoid sex 5
I think it's an unusual concern, rather than a common one. 1
No, I have never been worried about this. 1
No, it's really not. 0
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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    Take the pills and use condoms.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Nothing is really ever 100% effective.

      Talking about typical use of contraception (not the 'perfect' use that is normally published). Condoms alone are 85% effective. The pill alone is 92% effective. Combined use of the pill and condoms is 98.8% effective.

      Ref:
      http://www.mathscareers.org.uk/viewItem.cfm?cit_id=383023

      But you're also 30% likely to have a serious car crash in your life. Does that mean you should never touch a car (or maybe only just rub up against it)?

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  • HalfInsaneFemale
    7 years ago

    totally normal I'm 17 and so worried about it that im waiting until marriage

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  • yesnomaybeso
    10 years ago

    I'm also paranoid. After having sex, I really wish for my period to come as soon as possible. If it's late, only for a day, I start freaking out, getting nervous and not being able to sleep well. It sucks and I really don't enjoy these times :( (And it's worse when I have had sex without a condom). But I do enjoy it when I'm with the guy, and I wouldn't be able to say no then.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    yeah I'm always paranoid about pregnancy. What I'd suggest is going on the pill, getting the injection or getting the implant to go along with the condoms. Fun fact, 80% or girls with the implant don't get their period and it's actually a more effective contraception than men getting a vasectomy!

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