Is it normal to be so obsessive over my boyfriend and how can i stop?

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I met my boyfriend about 4 months ago and we have been officially together for about 3 months.

Sometimes my boyfriend seems really keen on me and acts as though he really likes me, for example last week he introduced me to his Mum, and I know that doing that was a big thing to him, however this week he doesn't seem very into me and although we have been texting, he doesn't seem too bothered about me and hasn't asked me how I am or anything.

I am 19 and he is my first ever boyfriend, but I am beginning to get obsessed. He is the first thing I think about when I wake up, everything in my life revolves around him and if he seems slightly off when he texts or for some reason doesn't want to hang out, I feel sick and really down and depressed!

The thought of him ever leaving me kills me and I can't even bear to think about it.

Is it normal to be this obsessed and what can I do to distract myself from thinking about him so much?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    It's normal in the early days of a relationship but if he finds out you are too clingy, he will dump you.

    You need to be interesting so have other interests / hobbies / friends to be able to tell him about when you are together. Don't read too much into texts - men don't worry about how they word them, they're more blunt than females. As men are 'fixers' it's usually good to ask his advice / opinion on something rather than just ramble on about how much you miss him etc.

    Make him want to be with you. Be fun and lively and interesting.... and BUSY! Very, very busy with other people and things - so that he is privileged to have your attention and feels that you are a great catch!

    Good luck!

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  • CrimsonRain
    7 years ago

    Becareful or you might become a Yandere. But then again...theres nothing wrong with that :)

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  • MCEminem
    8 years ago

    dont worry too much darlin just remember that if you get too clingy he will dump you. good luck!

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  • WhAt!
    11 years ago

    It's normal and trust me everyone pass through this. Eventually he will dump u,Why! Well because it's happens to everyone and its going to feel like is the end of the world but eventually ur gone get over and it will make u STRONGER but guess what life is good and you will find another guy that will love u xD

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    • MCEminem
      8 years ago

      love is amazing

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  • annon0000
    12 years ago

    download spector pro, and keylog him if your suspecting something, 9/10 if there cheating they leave evidence on a the computer or cellphone

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  • savemefrommyself
    12 years ago

    bug u because u have ur own life and as much as u wanna be with him its cool he does his thing... hell miss u and come running...absents makes the heart grow fonder....and if it doesnt work screw him! trust me itll feel like the end of the world if u do ever splitbht ull realize down the road u did it and probably laugh at it all...i did good luck...and rememeber live ur life sweetie..i wish i was ninteen again...

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  • savemefrommyself
    12 years ago

    its ur first boyfriend so ur new to this stuff and yes its normal..the good thing is that like me u realize how ur getting thats the first step to stopping. u should read what ive posted peoples comment might help u they helped me...i get that way too and im 23 and this isnt my first bf...but it feels soo different and im old enough to know what love and whats front. but i always wanna be wit him i freak out if he comes home late...and so on and so forth...sometimes i feel on top of the worldd loved and adored then i feel pushed away and ignored...i guess thats just guys for u..it doesnt mean he doesnt care for u anymore he just wants to do his own thing...trust me i know how it feels...like he doesnt want i around ...distant and kinda rude...all u can do is occupy urself...ues ull still think of him but ull be more distracted doing somthing u enjoy. if he doesnt wanna hang with u and im really one to talk i give good advice but i dnttake it myself just do this...show him ur fne with it...thats it doesnt

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    It's normal, but if you indulge in these feelings to much it could be a bother for him. Think of it like a yippy little dog that's follows you around, and is always ready to play, but sometimes you just want to sit in quiet for a second. You don't want to be that dog :P Your feelings are perfectly normal though

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