Is it normal to be so obsessed with the past?

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I am 29, even when I mention it, it just feels to unbelievable! it feels almost unreal. It seems just a few years ago that I passed out of school; & college ? I still can't believe I am through college FOREVER! To be honest I don't even know what is my biggest problem here...Now that I think about it I realise I have quiet a few problems.
To know that I could never turn back time; it is my biggest regret; & there are so many flaws that I want to take care of! I wish I could make my past perfect!I really really wish! I wish it almost every night! & the biggest part of my flawed past is related to school. I repent so much for not being a good student. In fact I dwell so much on my school days that I haven't really been able to get over the fact that for me school life is over FOREVER. Never in this life again would I be able to go back to school again. I don't know how to explain this any better but I don't seem to have matured mentally over the years at all. I still feel like a 15 year old. Even to myself I don't seem matured enough when I compare myself with people of my age.I feel very weird.Does anybody else feels this way too?

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  • thegift
    12 years ago

    Its easy to get caught up in the past. Afterall, the person you are looking at each day in the mirror is the result of the decisions you made since you were born. All you can do is learn from them and apply these lessons to your present day life. Focus on the future. It is yours to make.

    You have to feel the lowest lows to feel the highest highs.
    -wax

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    • missD
      12 years ago

      very nicely put together.Yes that's very true! & I do realise the situation I am in today is the result of my actions in the past. But sometimes it's very difficult to leave it there & move on...even when I try so hard. I am still trying...

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  • Bartholomew
    12 years ago

    I feel that way too! And I have to agree with all three comments above me.

    As I've gotten older I often feel like I'm pretending to be "grown up" when I actually feel pretty much the same since I was about 12. I can't say whether that's normal or not but I definitely prefer it to becoming an unhappy old and jaded soul.

    Yeah the past is so much a part of who you are and all your decisions do culminate but don't ever let it rule you to the point that you feel powerless to become who you want to. You're always capable of making changes. Life is hills and valleys.

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    • missD
      12 years ago

      Well when you put it like that...then yes feeling younger is better than feeling old.But the drawback is I seriously don't think I can handle a situation like a 29year old should. I would handle it in my own immatured ways which most of the time turns out to be not the right way.Did you ever felt that way?
      Yes,true.I try to remember that but it's difficult to follow when your mind is all messed up. I fight against negativity all the time...

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  • Turtleonfire
    11 years ago

    Don't worry it's normal. It's actually part of maturing to be conscientious like this for a while... BUT don't stay in it!

    You've gotta compartmentalise it now or it'll make you ill with worry.

    Dont concern yourself with the dead yesterdays or the dreams of the future. You can't exist in either of these realms. The past doesnt exist anymore and the future doesn't exist yet. Just notice the now.

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  • Pooter1111
    12 years ago

    Maybe you need to see a therapist and resolve these things within yourself ... Move on and live life to the full , you can't change the past but you can enjoy your future

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  • Real
    12 years ago

    If you keep one foot in the past and one foot in the future you are pissing on today.

    Acceptance and Live NOW.

    A great book is called BE HERE NOW by RAM DASS

    check it out, it's a trip....oh and breathe man:)

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    • t7796
      12 years ago

      If you keep one foot in the past and one foot in the future you are pissing on today.

      Acceptance and Live NOW.
      nicely said

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    • missD
      12 years ago

      yeah i do realize that... Thanks for the book recomendation. Will definitely check it out :-)

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  • Bleach2476
    13 years ago

    As long as you're learning from your experiences.

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