Is it normal to be so mad at your husband that you hit him?

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My husband is addicted to porn and I get so angry at him because he's always lying to me about it. The other day we were in the car and I was driving and talking about it and I was trying to pour my heart out to him, like how his porn watching makes me feel really bad about myself, etc. Apparently I was getting really annoying so he started yelling. Then I raised my voice trying to talk over him and all he started saying was "SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP" over and over. I just got so mad and saw red because I couldn't believe someone could be so rude to someone who is just trying to tell their feelings and I reached over and socked him in the face. I guess I got him really good because his lip was bleeding and my hand immediately got swollen and later on turned purple and I think I broke my pinky finger. I immediately regretted it and I feel sooo bad about it because I don't want to be that kind of person. now my husband is telling me that I'm abusive and I'm starting to think maybe I'm abusive? I am a really small person and I'm really weak so it's not like I could ever seriously insure either of us even if I wanted to. When I hit him that was probably the hardest I could even hit. I just feel like a complete jerk.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Physical abuse is physical abuse. Gender or physical size doesn't really matter.

    I used to have a roommate couple living with me. The girlfriend was only 4'11" and the boyfriend (around 5'9") was quite often walking around with a black eye that she had given him. He probably had bruises elsewhere but managed to hide them. He loved her and didn't believe it was right to strike back, so he just took it. She apologized every time she lost control of her temper because she felt bad.

    But she didn't feel quite as bad as he did because a guest of mine woke up one night and found him bawling his eyes out with a shotgun in his mouth. Luckily, my friend was able to talk him out of it, though. After that, the boyfriend moved out and didn't leave the girlfriend any forwarding information because he needed so badly to get away from her abuse and make himself safe again.

    Get some help before you loose control of yourself again.

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    • iEatZombies_
      11 years ago

      This.

      People don't realize the impact for a man being abused by someone he loves has the same emotional impact as it does for a woman. (BTW, sorry about your friend.)

      OP, don't let anyone try to underdress this seriousness because of gender roles. Just think- every time you see an ad for abused women they emphasize the feelings more than the marks. It's for a reason. Your little fist hurt him pretty bad. Go get some help with this.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Abuser, you should be ashamed of yourself.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    11 years ago

    Not normal. You shouldn't have hit him.

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    He sounds very selfish. You appear to have issues, but not without foundation here. Couples therapy?

    It is NEVER right to hit someone. You need help between you. I truly wish you well.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Lol, you go girl, show him who wears the pants in that relationship!

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  • Faceless
    11 years ago

    Hahahahaha. Sounds like he deserved to get punched. Maybe he'll listen more attentively next time.

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