Is it normal to be so insecure, that you feel you don't deserve much?

I think it is normal to be insecure but it starts to get unusual when your insecurities begin to affect the way you carry out your daily life. I think that as you discover and develop your beliefs, goals, and identity, you will begin to grow out of these insecurities. I do not mean that they will go away entirely but they will be significantly lessened.

To go about overcomming these insecurities, you should probably think deeply about who you are and shape your identity to something you are comforable with. And, it helps to make friends who you can be yourself with and not worry about embarrassment.

It is a hard question and not something I could give great or simple advice for but I tried to provide some useful information. I don't mean to sound like a know it all or anything. I mean, I sometimes struggle with insecurities of my own.

I understand i sometimes feel insecure of doing totally normal stuff, fearing i would do wrong i was even worse when younger, nowadays i sometimes dont even give a fuck if a do thing wrong or right (unless it's a work place then i am super insecure) and ofttimes i do things right to my surprise I hope things willg et better for you good luck!

I have social anxiety too. It's not fun, and I've tried to kill myself several times because of it and severe depression. I'm a little better now, but still...

I used to feel that way. Of course someone was always telling me I didn't deserve shit so maybe that had something to do with it.

We all have insecurities. The people who seem happiest in life are those who don't let their insecurities rule their lives. However you manage to do that, whether it's laughing at them, ignoring them, or even using them as a benefit, good luck to you.

Yeah, for me it's the same. I was traumatized at a very young age in front of a group of people and since then there have been times where I managed to crawl out of the shell and just be myself. Now I live in it like the nicotine craving turtle I am. I think I just lost my job. But besides that, the social anxiety becomes really severe when you are around successful people that expect so much out of you where you cannot deliver and then you just break, like an egg. Now there's yolk everywhere and something as small as simply writing a response to an inquiry on IIN seems like something I shouldn't do, because people don't deserve to hear my cries. Oh, but then I don't cry, to harden your heart is very much real. They say you're are on your own and life is a game of survival. If you still have close allies then you're alright because everyone needs somebody to lean on. This is my statement and nothing aimed at you. Some people are mean, and will bluntly begin to say disrespectful things about you, in front of you, in public because if you bite into that damn taco and make too much noise, you've got to make amends for disturbing the peace only because you were trying to enjoy a stupid taco. People should mind their own business and not judge others so loudly but they do, and they're cruel. At the end of the day you wonder, who's in the right? Is it wrong that society scapegoats people? It's better when you just don't give a damn about what anyone else thinks. Who's to blame when you you fall victim to putting up with the all the bullshit? No wonder you have these antisocial characters. But hey I guess it was my own choice to push my luck and dance with demons. Not Cool. Social anxiety is real, they have treatments for it. Humpty Dumpty can probably be put back together as long as he doesn't carelessly sit on top of the wall again knowing it wasn't a good idea to begin with. Most people are like fucking bees, hear them buzzing they'll sting you when you aggravate them.

Insecurity in some form or another is probably experienced by everyone at some point in their lives, but yours does seem pretty extreme. It doesn’t sound normal to me just because it indicates a lack of self esteem. But I think it’s something you should be able to overcome. You just have to realize that you’re just as worthy as anyone else, and you do deserve to enjoy those things you mentioned. I used to get embarrassed very easily too, and I think it came from insecurity and social anxiety. If you think you might have social anxiety, there are plenty of good meds that can help with that (I’m on one myself). And if it’s just general insecurity, then just work on being more positive about yourself. I can assure you that people probably don’t even notice how you eat your tacos, etc. If they do, then they need to mind their own business. And anyway, there’s no right way to eat ‘em. It’s just whatever works best for you. :) Good luck.