Is it normal to be so insecure?

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So I'm an 18 year old guy just starting at a university, so determining what is normal for anything at this point in life is an enigma. To give a brief background, I'm a highly intelligent individual coming from a middle class background, but having lived in one of the poorest, most uneducated cities in the country. Throughout high school, my preexisting hobbies and lifestyle intensified, I've become quite a workout junkie, It's imperative I am a straight A student, and have been trying to open my mind to new, responsible drug experiences. I have this fanatical fascination with drugs, but no so much using them, as the lifestyle around them and the chemistry to it. I've been steadily building myself up to become someone that, if I were put in someone else's shoes would thoroughly admire what he does with life.

So because I do so well I school, I am In the honors college and the dorms where most of those people live. I feel like I am an intimidating figure there, when in reality I Am incredibly insecure with myself. I want to integrate life in a more normal way with people here, but I don't feel tht is possible given my obsession with drugs. I am generally afraid of talking with girls, and I want to meet some with high aspirations in life, but I feel I will be looked down upon. very puzzled about how to make myself into someone more confident and happy with myself.

Sorry about the rambling, I am in the middle of the woods in Ohio at a music festival dealing with my own emotions after an acid trip.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    I would recommend just being yourself, but drugs and success rarely go together.

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  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    You can't be intelligent and then take drugs, sorry.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    It is normal to be insecure for a lot of reasons. It happens to everyone in life. Some people can deal with it and move on, others have more difficulties to manage with their fears and doubts. You'll be okay. You are normal. Be yourself and don't worry about things that people may think about you. I am myself the kind of person who inspire confidence but I am not that great and optimistic haha

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Everyone is insecure.

    Two types of person in this regard;

    Those who are but won't admit it because they also happen to be cowards.

    And those who are and say so when it comes up.

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  • BlueLove
    10 years ago

    Everyone get insecure, it's normal. Just be who you are and let the cards fall where they please. Don't worry so much about it.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    I have to say that I can relate to this post, well up until the whole intimidating figure thing. Anyways, I'm filled with insecurities, but the way that I've always dealt with it was faking confidence. Fake it till you make it. In my experience I use to just look in the mirror and say positive things about myself, eventually I began to believe them. Thus, I acquired some sense of confidence. I don't mind talking to people personally, but I understand that it can be scary. Like I said, focus on the good aspects about yourself and just believe that you're actually a confident person. Let's be honest, you're probably decent looking, and you're already a hard worker so right there you two good aspects about yourself, now fill in the rest.

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    • kingofcarrotflowers
      10 years ago

      Yeah I can relate to it too. I've heard before that the best way to gain confidence is to fake it, walk tall and as if you have somewhere you need to be and eventually you'll start believing it. I'm always trying to self analyze and trying to find positive things about myself but for some reason as simple as it sounds i've not really considered just acting confident. Thanks i'll try this

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        Kingofcarrotflowers are you the OP? Cause honestly I see you around here and you are a chill dude. It kinda hurts to know that you're like this. You give really solid advice and seem like a true friend.

        I know that confidence doesn't just fall from the sky, but faking it is how its worked for me. People aren't that difficult to talk to. And hey, I'm sure some lucky gal will walk your way, just talk to her when she does.

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