Is it normal to be so hurt

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my wife went away on her friends hen weekend . not wanting to go i told her she have to seeing she was head bridesmaid . . . 3years later and her and the best friend have huge falling out .me thinking womens business and dont get involved . then i bump in to the friends husband .he tells me he found a video on his wives phone of hen party . .turns out the hen party turned into orgy. . shows me the vidoo and theres his wife having sex with 2guys but u cant see the face only the body .but u see the womans ass . n i know my wifes ass it has a birthmark it turns out its not his wife but mine . im gutted . dont know what to do .

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    How's the marriage otherwise?

    Reality check; a lot of people cheat... for a variety of reasons (she may now be very sorry that she did it).

    There is likely something missing in your marriage that left her open to this. Perhaps several things.

    Another reality check: It is never about what happened: It's about why it happened; and is that a one time or very rare situation; or will it be reoccurring.

    I suggest that you get the book "The 5 Love Languages" and read it. Get a copy for your wife too... and let her read it too.

    You can likely patch things up if you can identify some of the missing things - and in general the other aspects of the marriage.

    After you have both read the book and started discussion love languages and if your love tanks are full... and if not how to fill them...

    Then you can bring up a what happened and allow her to explain; and offer that you want to work it out.

    The book is key that it will likely show both her and you how to fix and improve some things in your lives that right now you have no clue on. Solving problems works best when you both know that you did not understand something and there are ways to fix things.

    The book does cover at least one case of infidelity... and repair of that relationship.

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