Is it normal to be so depressed and stressed?

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I know a lot of people deal with heartbreaks and losing someone dear, but just recently I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me.
I found out when I was texting him (we were supposed to hangout and I was trying to get details from him, when, where, ect) and someone else was texting me instead of himself. It was his girlfriend. His new one. Me and his girlfriend fought over text, considering I have no idea who she is. All I know is that she is grade 10. Me and him are grade 9. Apparently he has known this girl for a long time and had a chance with her so he took it.
After me and him broke up I've been very depressed lately, I've been losing sleep, I've stopped eating, started cutting, punching things and making my hands\knuckles sore (swollen and damaged) and getting into a lot of fights with friends and family (not physical). I want him to know I still love him and care about him, even though he caused me a lot of pain, I still can't stop loving him. Me and him shared a lot of the same problems, I tried to help him with his and he tried to help me with mine, our relationship was going great, but than he cheated on me.
I've gone into depression and anxiety, I want to know, is it normal to be so confused and stressed all the time?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Learn to love yourself first, before worrying about others

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    • hate_love
      11 years ago

      Thanks, that really helps. :)

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  • SDDA
    11 years ago

    I became as depressed like this in grade 9, when a boy rejected me. WE NEVER EVEN WENT OUT. It's totally normal. And I'm not going to tell you that this guy is a jerk and to move on and to not waste your time on him because you know what? It's hard. So many people told me that and I couldn't do it. I remembered the good stuff too much.

    Just be careful when you cut yourself; you don't want to leave too many scars that will follow you forever because the heartbreak, guaranteed, will not last as long as scars do. I still have a beautiful scar on my knee, and one on my ankle for repeatedly cutting the same spot. I even had one on my face before, which has caused me to now have little red dots all in that area. Otherwise I want you to know that it gets better. You may need to wait until someone new comes along (for me that took two years) but know that it will happen.

    Also, I don't know if this might help you, but now every time I become sad about losing a boy I am sad for a few days but then ask myself, "Do I really want to waste my time going back to that same, stupid depression from grade 9, when I can do so much more?" I answer no then listen to some crazy uplifting music like the last songs in Braveheart and the Lion King. Really helps put a smile on my face. I wish for you to be able to smile soon too!

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    • hate_love
      11 years ago

      Yeah, it's really hard.. I still love him, i cant get him out of my mind, i think of him everyday.. But trying to forget about him is easier said than done. Thanks for your answer, it really helps :)

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  • 0404
    11 years ago

    Yes its normal it can be part of our every day life. you just have to flight or fight it. wtich means to fight or let it go like try to not let it get to you. poor thing and all the best. :)

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  • MCA
    11 years ago

    What you are feeling is normal. However, please speak to your school counselor, school nurse or an adult in school that you trust so that you may receive support. You may also want to ask a parent or guardian to schedule a medical appointment for you so that you may receive a referral for counseling; everyone needs someone impartial to talk to which is why we are all on this sight. It seems that you may need a little more support because you are expressing that you are depressed.

    Please don't be scared to seek the support you need... once you do you will begin to feel much better.

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  • Servatis
    11 years ago

    Yes, that is normal.. Teenagers can do some pretty heartless things in relationships. Dealing with emotional distress can be harder for teens than adults. While adults have freedoms they can distract themselves with, going to a bar, going out with friends, jobs, etc. Teens don't have this freedom, they are forced to deal with their emotions because often times, there is nothing a teen can do to escape them. Don't let the heartbreak overwhelm you.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    Well yeah its normal after you have.been personally betrayed and hurt to feel like this.
    I won't judge you on the extremeties of the heartbreak you are going through such as cutting and not eating because of your age. I remember teen angst and depression and how severe it can be. But seriously this douchebag isnt worth it. You must move on. It's his loss. Please stop hurting yourself over this asshole.

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    The last thing I read was grade 9. You don't belong here.

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